A Calm Consequence for Dismissive Body Language 

Parenting Perspective 

When a child uses dismissive body language, such as eye-rolling, turning away, or exaggerated sighing, it undermines respectful communication. Responding with anger can escalate the situation, while a calm and consistent consequence teaches that respect is expected without shaming the child. 

Withdraw Attention Briefly 

One effective consequence is to pause the conversation and step back until your child is ready to re-engage respectfully. You might say, “We will continue this conversation when you are able to listen without dismissive gestures.” This removes the reward of your attention until they are ready to correct their behaviour. 

Link Privileges to Respectful Conduct 

You can calmly explain, “Respect is one of our family’s values. If you choose to use dismissive behaviour, you will lose some screen time today.” This makes the consequence clear, proportional, and directly related to the behaviour you are addressing. 

Offer a Chance to Repair 

After the consequence has been applied, give your child an opportunity to try again with respect. For example, “Let us try that conversation one more time, but this time with eye contact and calm words.” This teaches them that mistakes are not final and that respectful behaviour can always be restored. 

Calm consequences work best when they are paired with consistent expectations and opportunities for repair. This shows your child that respect is non-negotiable but that forgiveness is always possible. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings emphasise the importance of self-control and dignity in all aspects of our lives, including our body language. Our actions, whether big or small, are a reflection of our faith. 

Guidance from the noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Noor (24), Verse 30: 

‘Say (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) to the believing men to lower their gaze (upon forbidden things); and protect their private parts (with chastity); these actions shall help them (attain) piety; indeed, Allah (Almighty is All Cognisant of all of their actions.’ 

This verse reminds us that self-control over our eyes and gestures is an essential part of Islamic discipline, reflecting humility and respect. 

Teachings of the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1162, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most complete of the believers in faith are those with the best character.’ 

This Hadith teaches us those good manners, including our body language, form a crucial part of our faith and should be consistently nurtured. 

By giving calm and fair consequences for dismissive body language, you are reflecting the balance of firmness and mercy found in Islam. Your child learns that their posture and gestures are meaningful and that respect should guide both their words and their actions. Over time, this helps to instil self-discipline and a faith-centred sense of character.