Parenting Perspective 

When a child questions the purpose of wearing the hijab or keeping a beard, it often reflects a search for meaning, not an act of rebellion. They may see friends or relatives who practise Islam differently, and without understanding the wisdom behind these outward signs, the practices can seem restrictive or outdated. If a parent reacts with only a reprimand, the child may begin to associate them with blind obligation rather than conscious devotion. 

Children need to understand that these visible markers of faith are not empty symbols but living expressions of identity and devotion. The key is to help them see the profound purpose behind the practice, not just the rule itself. 

Begin with Empathy 

Acknowledge their struggle with compassion: ‘I can understand why it might feel difficult to see the reason for the hijab or beard, especially when others around you do not observe them.’ This simple validation reassures them that their question is being taken seriously. To dismiss their concern is to risk closing the door to any further dialogue. 

Link Practice to Identity and Dignity 

Explain that the hijab and the beard are not about appearance alone, but about carrying one’s identity with dignity and modesty in the world. They serve as a reminder, both to the believer and to those around them, that faith is an integral part of their life. You can compare it to a uniform that reflects inner values; just as doctors or athletes wear distinct clothing representing their commitment, these signs are worn as a commitment to Allah. 

Highlight the Personal Meaning 

Invite your child to explore how these practices connect to self-respect and mindfulness. The hijab, for instance, can create a boundary of personal honour, while the beard follows the beautiful example of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. Encourage them to see these as acts of love, not only of duty. A wonderful way to help is to encourage them to research and discuss stories of Muslims who found empowerment and pride in their hijab or beard, allowing them to hear voices beyond your own. 

Spiritual Insight 

The noble Quran and the Sunnah establish these outward practices as an integral part of embodying one’s faith. They are not arbitrary rules but are forms of divine guidance, carrying both spiritual and social wisdom. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Noor (24), Verse 31: 

‘And say  (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) to the women who are believers; to lower their gaze (upon forbidden things); and protect their private parts (with chastity); and not to display their beauty except that which is apparent (for functionality e.g. eyes, hands); and let them place their head veils over their upper bodies…’ 

This verse demonstrates that the hijab is not an isolated command but part of a wider ethic of modesty that shapes both inward character and outward appearance. It is a reflection of a believer’s relationship with Allah Almighty as well as their dignified presence in society. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5893, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Cut the moustaches short and leave the beard, for it is distinctive of Islam.’ 

This hadith shows that keeping a beard is part of the prophetic way, a visible sign of one’s identity and connection to the ummah. Both the hijab and the beard, therefore, stand as clear and visible acts of following divine and prophetic guidance. 

When your child questions the point of these practices, respond with calm explanation and meaningful examples. Help them to see that these outward signs are not burdens but gifts: ways of carrying their faith with dignity while reminding both the world and themselves of their devotion to Allah Almighty. With patient guidance, they may come to see the hijab and the beard not as restrictions but as honoured symbols of their identity and love for their Creator.