What do I say if my child copies other kids who mock rules? 

Parenting Perspective 

It is alarming when children begin to copy their peers in mocking rules. Rules, both at home and at school, exist to provide safety, order, and respect. When this structure is mocked, it can make disobedience seem entertaining or “cool.” If your child imitates this behaviour, it is important to respond with calm firmness. Your goal is not only to stop the mockery but to help your child understand that respecting rules is a sign of wisdom and strength. 

Why Children Mock Rules 

Understanding the motivation behind this behaviour allows you to respond in a way that corrects the action while nurturing wisdom. Children often mock rules because: 

• They see their peers gaining laughs or attention for doing so. 

• They perceive rules as unfair restrictions rather than as sensible protections. 

• They want to appear bold, clever, or independent in front of others. 

Make Your Standard Clear 

Respond directly and calmly the moment your child mocks a rule. 

‘Rules are not something to laugh at. They are in place to protect you and everyone else. In our family, we take them seriously.’ 

This consistency shows that respecting boundaries is a non-negotiable part of your family’s values. 

Explain the Purpose Behind Rules 

Help your child see that rules are not arbitrary punishments but are based on wisdom and care. 

‘The rule about crossing the road carefully is there to keep you safe from harm. Without it, people could get hurt.’ 

This simple explanation helps to shift their view of rules from restrictions to sensible safeguards. 

Provide Alternatives for Expressing Independence 

If your child is mocking rules as a way of appearing bold, provide them with healthier outlets to feel independent. This could include making small decisions for themselves, taking on a new responsibility, or leading a family activity in a positive way. This satisfies their need for confidence without undermining respect for order. 

Reinforce Respect for Rules 

When you see your child following a rule without complaint or prompting, praise them for it. 

‘I really liked how you waited for your turn so patiently. That shows real responsibility.’ 

This makes the act of respecting rules feel rewarding, while the appeal of mocking them begins to fade. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam places great importance on discipline and respect for just boundaries. Rules that protect people’s rights, dignity, and safety are in alignment with Islamic values. To mock them reflects a sense of arrogance, whereas to obey them reflects humility and sincerity. 

Respecting legitimate authority and rules is a part of faith, as it nurtures order and harmony in society. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Nisa (4), Verse 59: 

‘ O you who are Believers, obey Allah Almighty and obey His Messenger (Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) and those who have authority amongst you…’ 

This verse reminds us that obedience to just authority is a command from Allah. 

A believer is expected to listen and obey, so long as the command is not sinful. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1839, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘It is obligatory upon a Muslim to listen and obey (those in authority) in what he likes and dislikes, if he is not commanded to sin. If he is commanded to sin, then there is no listening or obedience.’ 

This hadith teaches a balanced approach: we respect and follow rules that bring order and protection, as this is a reflection of a believer’s character. By showing your child that mocking rules is a sign of immaturity, not strength, you nurture in them the qualities of humility and wisdom. Over time, they will learn that following rules with sincerity reflects discipline and closeness to Allah.