Parenting Perspective 

If you discover that your child has written something rude to a teacher online, the issue must be addressed quickly but calmly. Unlike spoken words, written messages create a lasting record that can damage trust and affect academic relationships. The goal is to correct the mistake while teaching your child how to repair the situation and communicate responsibly online. 

Address It Immediately and Privately 

Speak to your child as soon as you become aware of the message, approaching the conversation in a calm and private manner. Ask them to explain why they wrote it; their reason may stem from frustration, embarrassment, or simple carelessness. Understanding their motive is key to guiding them effectively. Explain that online communication carries the same weight as face-to-face speech and must always be respectful. 

Guide Them to Make Amends 

Help your child to draft a sincere and respectful apology email to their teacher. You can guide them to use language such as, ‘I am very sorry for the message I sent earlier. I understand now that it was disrespectful, and I will ensure I communicate more politely in the future.’ Taking this step not only helps to repair the immediate situation but also teaches the crucial life skill of accountability. 

Teach Preventative Habits 

Encourage your child to adopt the simple but powerful habit of pausing before they send any message. A rule like ‘Reread every message before you send it’ can prevent a great deal of careless rudeness. Remind them that respectful communication is not just about avoiding trouble; it is about earning the respect of others in return. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that our words, whether spoken or written, must always reflect humility and respect, a principle that is especially important when addressing teachers and elders. 

The Command for Gentle Speech 

The Quran sets a high standard for communication, instructing believers to use gentle and kind words even in situations of difficulty or disagreement. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verses 28: 

‘ And if you must ignore (the needy, as you yourself) are seeking the mercy from your Sustainer, which you are hoping (will give you enough to fulfil everyone’s needs); then (in the very least) speak to them (the needy) with words ‘managing their expectations’.‘ 

Acknowledging the Rights of Elders 

The prophetic tradition makes it clear that showing respect to elders, which includes teachers, is not merely a social nicety but a fundamental part of a believer’s character. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 355, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He who does not show mercy to our young ones and does not acknowledge the rights of our elders is not one of us.’ 

By helping your child to apologise and rebuild respect, you are connecting their online behaviour to the Islamic values of humility and adab. They will learn that honouring their teachers, even in writing, is an essential part of their faith and a means of earning the pleasure of Allah Almighty.