How do I teach empathy to a child who struggles to read social cues? 

Parenting Perspective 

Break Down Social Cues into Simple Parts 

For a child who struggles to read social cues, learning empathy requires a patient, step-by-step approach. Parents can help by breaking down social interactions into simple, observable parts. For example, you might point out, ‘Do you see how your friend’s face looks sad? That often means their feelings are hurt.’ Using stories and pausing to ask, ‘How do you think that character is feeling right now?’ is also a powerful way to build this skill. 

Practise Step-by-Step 

Rather than expecting them to guess how someone is feeling, encourage your child to ask simple, direct questions like, ‘Are you okay?’ This gives them a respectful way to engage, even if they have missed a social cue. When you see them making an effort, such as offering a toy to a sad friend, offer specific praise: ‘It was so thoughtful of you to ask your cousin if she was alright.’ This positive reinforcement is crucial for their motivation. 

Build Empathy at Their Own Pace 

By teaching social awareness gradually and celebrating small successes, you help your child build empathy at their own pace, without overwhelming them. This approach nurtures compassion, patience, and stronger bonds with others. 

Spiritual Insight 

Believers Must Support One Another 

Islam teaches that believers are meant to be a source of support for one another. The Quran warns that if we fail in this duty, it can lead to great corruption and turmoil. This reminds us that noticing and responding to the needs of others is a vital part of a healthy community. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anfaal (8), Verse 73: 

‘…And unless you (O Muslims) act (with the same degree of brotherhood), there shall remain tyrannical oppression on Earth, and a great deal of (immoral) anarchy.’ 

Believers Strengthen Each Other 

This beautiful prophetic analogy teaches that believers should be like a single building, with each part supporting and strengthening the others. Caring for the feelings of our brothers and sisters is a fundamental part of what makes the community strong and united. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, 222, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believer is like a building; each part strengthens the other.’ 

Kindness as an Islamic Duty 

When your child learns that empathy is not just about understanding feelings, but is also an Islamic duty to support others, they begin to see kindness as a part of their faith. This perspective helps to nurture their compassion and patience, strengthening their relationship with others and with Allah.