Parenting Perspective 

Helping a child understand their emotional tipping point takes time and is based on developing self-awareness. Many young children may not understand that they are about to lose control until it has already occurred. Start by assisting your child in recognising physical indicators of distress, such as clenched fists, an increased heartbeat, or a louder voice. Identify these as initial signals that their body is communicating a message. Advise them to express themselves using straightforward phrases such as ‘I need help’ or ‘I feel angry’. Repetition is important; engage in role-play during calm moments to help them practise identifying and expressing their feelings before they escalate. 

Tools and Actions to Promote Self-Regulation 

• Use emotion charts or a feelings thermometer to track rising emotions 

• Encourage actions like counting to five, taking deep breaths, or moving to a calm area 

• Recognise and praise your child when they spot their feelings early 

The goal is not flawless control, but growing self-awareness and confidence in knowing assistance is available when required. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Raʻad (13), Verse 11: 

…Indeed, Allah (Almighty) does not alter (the condition) of any nation, unless they start to make positive changes by themselves… 

This verse indicates that being aware of oneself and managing one’s actions are not merely psychological aims, but also spiritual duties. Helping your child build these skills enables them to take responsibility for their actions in a manner that aligns with their innate moral awareness. 

It is recorded in Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 4782, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise, he should lie down. 

This Hadith offers a practical example of how to manage emotions wisely. Encouraging children to change their posture, step back from what disturbs them, or seek help mirrors prophetic guidance. When your child begins to notice their own internal changes and asks for support rather than becoming overwhelmed, they demonstrate increased maturity. Commend these efforts and consistently make Dua to Allah Almighty to support their journey towards awareness and self-improvement.