How to Guide a Child Who Is Angry at Allah 

Parenting Perspective 

Pain Seeking Expression 

It is natural for a child to express anger towards Allah when facing loss or sudden change, because children often do not yet know how to separate their strong emotions from their faith. What your son is showing is not rejection of belief, but pain seeking expression. As a parent, your role is to make space for his feelings while gently teaching him that Allah is not the source of punishment, but the One who sustains and protects even in hardship. 

Acknowledge His Anger First 

Start by acknowledging his anger without correcting it immediately. You might say, “I hear that you are upset and it feels unfair. I understand.” This allows him to feel safe to share his emotions openly. Then, invite reflection by sharing your own thoughts carefully: “I also feel sadness about leaving, but I believe Allah has a wisdom we cannot always see.” This models the balance of honesty and trust. 

Help Him Reframe Gratitude 

Help him reframe gratitude by drawing his attention to what he still has. Emphasise safety, family bonds, or small blessings that remain. Encourage him to express these in du‘a, not as denial of his anger, but as a reminder that Allah continues to give. At the same time, show him that gratitude does not erase hardship, but allows the heart to hold hope while carrying difficulty. 

Express Hurt While Still Returning to Trust 

Over time, through open conversations and gentle reminders, your son will learn that being close to Allah includes expressing hurt while still returning to trust. 

Spiritual Insight 

Hardship and Blessings Are Intertwined 

Faith teaches us that hardship and blessings are intertwined. When children feel angry at Allah, they need reassurance that their emotions are not a barrier to His mercy. 

If You Are Grateful, I Will Increase You 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Ibraheem (14), Verse 7: 

‘And (remember) when your Sustainer made this declaration; (saying that): “If you show gratitude, I (Allah Almighty) will indeed, amplify them for you (provisions and sustenance); however, if you become ungrateful, then indeed, My punishment is Meticulous (in execution)”.’  

This Verse shows that gratitude is not only about giving thanks in comfort, but also recognising Allah’s continuous blessings in times of loss. Gratitude opens the way for increase, not just in material provision but in strength, faith, and resilience. 

Gratitude Begins With Small Blessings 

It is recorded in Musnad Ahmed, Hadith 23965, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever is not grateful for small things will not be grateful for large things.’  

This hadith reminds us that gratitude is a practice that begins even with the smallest of blessings. Teaching this to a child helps them see that acknowledging small mercies builds a heart that can withstand bigger trials. 

By validating your son’s hurt, gently redirecting his focus towards gratitude, and reminding him of Allah’s wisdom, you can guide him back towards trust without dismissing his feelings. In doing so, you plant the seeds of resilience and faith that will support him through many stages of life.