How can parents tell if a child’s nightmares or fears are connected to disturbing online content? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children do not always admit when something they have seen online has frightened them, but these fears often manifest indirectly through disturbed sleep, nightmares, or the sudden onset of new anxieties. Parents who learn to notice these changes can begin to connect the dots by paying close attention to the timing, patterns, and other emotional cues in their child’s behaviour. 

Note the Timing of Nightmares and Sleep Disturbances 

If you notice that your child’s nightmares or newfound fears seem to appear shortly after late-night device use, or if they suddenly start resisting bedtime after being online, this may point to frightening content being the trigger. The timing of the disturbance is often a key indicator. 

Listen for Specific Themes in Their Nightmares 

Nightmares that feature recurring themes of monsters, violence, or social embarrassment may directly mirror disturbing videos, games, or negative online interactions they have experienced. Listening carefully to what your child remembers from their dream can provide important clues. 

Observe Any New Fears and Avoidance Behaviours 

If a child suddenly develops new fears, such as a fear of the dark, of being alone, or of certain sounds, and these anxieties did not exist before, it may reflect something they were exposed to online. This is often a more reliable sign than attributing it to natural childhood imagination. 

Notice Behavioural Changes Around Devices 

A child who suddenly hesitates to use a particular app after having a nightmare, or who becomes unusually secretive and anxious around their screens, may be struggling with their exposure to inappropriate material. 

Parents can gently explore the issue by saying: ‘I have noticed you have had some bad dreams lately. I know that sometimes things we see online can stay in our minds. Did you happen to see anything that scared you?’ This approach creates a safe space for honesty, without adding to their shame. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam acknowledges that disturbing images or negative whispers (waswās) can unsettle the heart and have a direct impact on a person’s sleep. Parents are encouraged to protect their children from such harmful influences and to remind them of the beautiful spiritual practices that can bring a sense of calm and security. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verses 28: 

‘…Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that (one can (and does) find peace of mind and heart.’ 

This verse is a powerful reminder that turning our hearts towards Allah is the ultimate source of soothing our fears and restoring a sense of inner tranquillity. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, 3292, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘If anyone of you has a dream that he dislikes, let him spit lightly to his left three times, and seek refuge in Allah from its evil, then it will not harm him.’ 

This teaching provides children with a practical and empowering tool. It shows them that even when frightening thoughts or dreams come, the act of remembering Allah and seeking His protection can bring them safety and peace. 

By combining careful observation with gentle spiritual reassurance, parents can guide their children to process their fears, helping to restore their hearts with faith. Over time, this teaches a child that harmful content does not need to dominate their mind, because their ultimate refuge is always found in the protection of Allah Almighty.