How can I explain to my child why they should not expect the same constant excitement from offline life as they get from video games? 

Parenting Perspective 

Video games are designed to provide constant stimulation, which can make the natural pace of everyday life seem dull in comparison. Helping your child understand this difference is key to them appreciating both worlds. 

Acknowledge and Explain the Difference 

Start by validating their feelings. Let them know it is normal for offline activities to feel slower than the fast-paced world of video games. Explain that games are intentionally designed with constant rewards and challenges to keep players engaged, whereas real life unfolds at a more varied and natural pace. 

Use Relatable Analogies 

Use a simple analogy they can understand. You could compare video games to eating sweets: they provide a quick burst of pleasure but cannot replace the long-lasting nourishment of a proper meal. Real-life experiences, like learning a skill or playing a sport, may not offer an instant thrill every second, but they build something real and lasting. 

Highlight Deeper, Real-World Rewards 

Help them to notice and appreciate the unique satisfaction that comes from offline achievements. This could be the pride of learning a new skill, the joy of making something with their hands, or the warmth of building a friendship. These experiences provide a deeper, more lasting sense of fulfilment than any in-game reward. 

By helping your child understand the difference between short-term stimulation and long-term satisfaction, you prepare them to enjoy life beyond screens in a healthy and balanced way. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us to value balance, patience, and gratitude. It encourages an appreciation for the different rhythms of life, recognising that not every moment is meant to be filled with high excitement. Slowing down can often help us to notice Allah’s blessings more deeply. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Rome (30), Verse 21: 

‘ And amongst His Signs (of the infinite truth) are that He (Allah Almighty) created for you, your (matrimonial) partners from your species so that you may find tranquillity from them; and designed between you love, tolerance and kindness…’ 

This reminds us that some of life’s greatest joys, such as love and connection, are found in moments of peace and tranquillity rather than in constant thrills. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6446, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Richness is not in having many possessions, rather, true richness is the richness of the self.’ 

This teaches us that true and lasting fulfilment comes not from an endless supply of external excitement or possessions, but from developing inner contentment and gratitude. 

By guiding your child to appreciate quieter moments alongside times of excitement, you help them develop a heart that values balance, patience, and the deeper joys that bring lasting happiness.