How can I show my child that my presence is a more reliable comfort than a device? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children often view devices as reliable because they offer immediate distraction and predictable entertainment. To help your child see you as the more dependable source of comfort, your presence must be paired with consistent warmth and attentiveness. This helps them feel that reaching for you is emotionally safer and more fulfilling than reaching for a screen. 

Respond Promptly and Calmly 

When your child is distressed or seeking comfort, it is important to pause what you are doing and give them your full attention. Even a few moments of undivided presence can reassure them that you are available and that their feelings matter to you. 

Build a Consistent Record of Comfort 

Strive to offer a similar comforting response each time they come to you in distress. Whether it is a hug, quiet listening, or a shared calming activity, this consistency helps them associate you with stability and safety, building a reliable track record of comfort. 

Create Daily Moments of Connection 

Connection should not only happen during difficult times. Create small, daily moments of joy and closeness, such as sharing a story or simply talking about your day. This builds a positive emotional reserve they can draw from, making you their natural first choice for comfort. 

When your presence is consistently linked to warmth, reliability, and genuine care, the appeal of a device as an emotional refuge will naturally diminish. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, providing emotional security to those under our care is a significant part of showing mercy and fulfilling the trust (amanah) that Allah Almighty has placed upon us. Being a steady, compassionate presence is a reflection of the prophetic character. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Maryam (19), Verse 96: 

‘Indeed, those people who have believed, and have undertaken virtuous actions; the One Who is Most Beneficent shall designate for them, His absolute affection…‘ 

This verse reminds us that sincere care and righteous actions are the foundation upon which genuine love and attachment are built. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 355, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young.’ 

This teaches us that true mercy towards children includes consistent emotional availability and support, not just physical presence. 

By being present, responding with consistent care, and making comfort a dependable experience, you demonstrate that your love and attention are a source of peace and security that no device can ever replace.