How can I model my own willingness to choose family play over screen time? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children are incredibly observant of what we prioritise, particularly during our leisure time. Seeing you consistently put down a device to join in a game or conversation sends a far more powerful message than any lecture on the dangers of too much screen time. You can begin by making intentional, visible choices. For example, if a notification arrives while you are playing, you could say aloud, ‘I will check that later; this is much more important right now’. This simple act demonstrates that connection is a conscious and valuable choice. 

Make Family Play Appealing 

It is important not to frame offline time as a sacrifice. Instead, show that you genuinely enjoy it. When you participate in family play, be fully present with your smiles and laughter. When your enthusiasm is authentic, it sends a clear signal that being together is a reward in itself, not a chore. 

Create Your Own Screen Boundaries 

You must also set clear boundaries for yourself. This could mean leaving your phone in another room during meals or putting it on silent during board games. Share these personal rules with your child, so they see you holding yourself accountable. This shows them that the rules are about valuing connection, not about controlling their behaviour. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings guide us to focus on actions of lasting value and to understand that being of benefit to our families is a profound act of worship. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Kahf (18), Verse 46: 

‘All wealth and offspring are luxuries of the worldly life, but (the outcomes of) virtuosity shall remain forever, and it is deemed the best (action) to be rewarded by your Sustainer, and the best source of hope (for the Hereafter)…‘ 

This verse beautifully puts life into perspective. While worldly matters are an ‘adornment’, it is our enduring good deeds that hold true worth. Investing time in nurturing our children and building strong family bonds is one of the most valuable and lasting deeds we can perform. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 939, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most beloved of people to Allah on the Day of Judgment will be the one who brings the most benefit to people.’ 

Choosing to be present with our family over the distraction of a screen is a powerful way to be of benefit to them. By doing so, we model that acts of kindness, shared joy, and focused attention are not just good manners, but are themselves a form of worship.