My child now shares more with their friends online than with me. How do I reopen that space at home? 

Parenting Perspective 

It can be disheartening when you realise your child confides more in their online friends than in you. Often, this is not a personal rejection but a sign that they have found a space where they feel heard without judgment or interruption. To reopen that door at home, the focus must be on rebuilding emotional safety, not demanding information. Begin with regular, low-pressure activities together, like cooking or going for a walk, where conversation is not forced. Instead of interrogating them about their online life, show gentle curiosity about their world by asking what they have enjoyed or found funny that day. 

Listen Without Judgment 

Pay close attention to how you react when they do decide to share. If your immediate response is to offer advice or criticism, they are likely to withdraw again. The key is to validate their feelings first, even if you intend to offer guidance later. A simple, ‘That sounds really difficult’, or, ‘I can see why you would feel that way’, shows you are on their side. Sometimes, all they need is to be heard without the conversation becoming a lecture. 

Make Home a Confidant Space 

Actively create daily moments where your child knows your attention is completely theirs. This means putting devices away, maintaining eye contact, and listening with genuine curiosity. Over time, these consistent and safe conversational moments can make home feel like the most natural place for them to bring their thoughts and feelings. 

Spiritual Insight 

The prophetic way of connecting with others was rooted in presence, gentleness, and sincere listening. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 159: 

‘So, it is by the mercy from Allah (Almighty) that you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) are lenient with them; and if you had been harsh (in your speech) or restrained (in your heart), they would have dispersed from around you…’ 

This beautiful verse, addressed to the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, reveals a universal truth: gentleness and mercy draw hearts closer, while a harsh approach will cause people to scatter. This is especially true within a family. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6125, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Make things easy and do not make things difficult, give glad tidings and do not cause aversion.’ 

This principle applies perfectly to parenting. When we make the act of sharing easy, safe, and positive, our children are far more likely to come to us rather than turn away. 

By offering consistent warmth, a non-judgmental ear, and your undivided presence, you can make home the most natural and welcoming place for your child to share their heart, even in an age of endless online connections.