Should I take my child to Islamic classes if they find it overwhelming? 

Parenting Perspective 

Recognising When a Class is Overwhelming 

Islamic classes and madrasah are a beautiful way to build your child’s connection with their faith, but they can feel overwhelming for children with special educational needs (SEN), sensory sensitivities, or social anxiety. Large groups, strict routines, noise, and new faces may all cause stress that blocks learning rather than nurturing it. 

Assess and Explore Alternatives 

Start by asking yourself: Is my child truly benefitting from this class, or is it too much right now? Look for signs of stress, such as meltdowns before or after class, a refusal to attend, or falling behind despite their best efforts. If so, remember that you are not failing your child by exploring other ways to teach them. Speak with the teacher, share what your child struggles with, and ask if they can adjust the environment, perhaps with a smaller group, shorter lessons, or quieter spaces. If this is not possible, consider alternatives. One-to-one tuition, online lessons, or learning at home in short, gentle sessions may suit your child better. 

Focus on Calm Connection at Home 

Keep your expectations realistic. A child who feels safe and calm will absorb more than one who sits through a class in a state of fear or shutdown. Build simple routines at home, such as daily short surahs, stories about the Prophets ﷺ, or gentle reminders about Salah. Praise every small effort, no matter how small. Explain to family or community members that learning the Deen should be a source of love and connection, not fear. Your child’s path may look different, and that is okay. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam is for everyone, regardless of ability, learning style, or pace. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…‘

This Ayah reminds us that Allah Almighty does not expect from your child what they cannot manage. Faith is a mercy, not a burden. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was patient with every person’s capacity. He ﷺ never forced people to practise more than they could handle, and he praised small, consistent actions. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 1970, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The most beloved deeds to Allah are those done regularly, even if they are few.‘

Make a simple Dua: ‘O Allah Almighty, make learning the Deen easy and beloved for my child.’ Remind your child that what matters most is a heart that loves Allah Almighty and tries, even if it takes time. 

With patience, practical adjustments, and faith in Allah Almighty’s understanding, you can nurture your child’s spiritual journey without pressure. Trust that He knows every struggle, and that your gentle efforts, no matter how small, are seeds of Barakah that grow in His sight.