What should I do if my child hates going to school? 

Parenting Perspective 

Understand the Reason 

It can feel painful and worrying when your child dreads going to school. Some children struggle because of sensory overload, learning difficulties, worries about friendships or simply feeling misunderstood. Try to start by calmly asking your child what makes them feel upset about school. Listen carefully without interrupting or correcting them. 

Watch for Patterns 

Sometimes children do not have the words to explain what they feel, so watch for patterns too. Do they complain of tummy aches or headaches on school mornings? Do they become tearful or angry on Sunday evenings? Keep a gentle record of what you notice, this can help you see what might be happening. 

Share Your Concerns with the School 

Share your concerns with your child’s teacher or the school’s SENCO. They may not realise just how worried your child feels each day. Ask what changes could help make school feel safer and calmer. Small adjustments like having a quieter space to go to, using a buddy system or giving clearer instructions can make a big difference for some children. 

Build Calm, Predictable Routines at Home 

Try to build calm, predictable routines at home too. Use simple charts or visual timetables so your child knows what to expect. A comforting item in their school bag, like a small note or Dua card, can remind them they are not alone. Praise every small act of bravery, even getting dressed without tears is a step forward. 

If things do not get better, do not be afraid to ask for more help or push for extra support. You are not overreacting. You are listening to your child’s real feelings and doing your best to respond with patience, care and love. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us that when our children face struggles outside the home, our role as parents becomes a shield of comfort and prayer. Allah Almighty sees every anxious morning, and every tear wiped from your child’s cheek. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Ash-Sharh (94), Verses 5–6: 

‘For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. ‘

This beautiful promise gives hope that with every worry, there is a door to relief. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them. ‘

This Hadith Shareef reminds us that responding to your child’s struggles with gentleness and practical care is an act of worship. Make sincere Dua for your child’s heart to feel safe and for teachers to understand what they need. Read Ayat-ul-Kursi or Surah Al Falaq over your child before they leave for school. Remind them that Allah Almighty is always near, protecting them when you cannot be there. Trust that your efforts, your calm mornings, patient words, and tears in Sajdah, are never wasted. May Allah Almighty place comfort in your child’s heart, bring them kind friends, and grant you strength to guide them through this testing season.