How do I raise concerns with my GP without feeling dismissed? 

Parenting Perspective 

You Are Your Child’s Closest Observer 

Bringing up worries about your child’s development can feel intimidating, especially if you worry you might be brushed aside. Remember that you are your child’s closest observer. The things you notice everyday matter more than you may realise. 

Prepare Before Your Appointment 

Before your appointment, write down clear examples of what you see. Note what concerns you, how often it happens and how it affects your child’s daily life. Keep it factual but caring. If you can, bring short videos or a simple behaviour log to help paint a clear picture. Be calm but firm when you share your worries. It can help to practise saying something like, “I would like your advice on whether this needs further investigation.” 

The Right to a Second Opinion 

If you feel your concerns are not being taken seriously, you have the right to ask for a second opinion or a referral to a specialist. Many parents feel guilty for pushing, but asking for answers is not complaining. It is a caring and responsible step for your child. If you feel nervous speaking up, bring along a trusted family member or friend who can support you. 

Remember, your goal is not to get a label for your child. It is to understand their needs more clearly so they can get the right support and thrive. Trust your instincts. You know your child best and you deserve to feel heard. You are not alone in this. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that parents have an Amanah to protect and nurture their children, and sometimes this means speaking up when it feels uncomfortable. Allah Almighty knows what is in your heart and how heavy your concerns can feel. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Imran (3), Verse 159: 

‘So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. ‘

This Ayah reminds us that calm words and respectful firmness open doors that harshness cannot. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them. ‘

This Hadith Shareef reassures you that seeking help is part of good upbringing, it is an act of care, not criticism. Make sincere Dua before your appointment for courage and wisdom. Ask Allah Almighty to place Barakah in your words and to guide the professional to listen with understanding. Trust that when you advocate for your child with respect, patience, and Tawakkul, you are fulfilling your trust to Allah Almighty. Your voice is one of the greatest tools you have been given to protect your child, use it gently but firmly, and know that Allah Almighty is Al-Sami, the All-Hearing, who knows every fear and every unspoken hope you carry in your heart.