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What is the best way to explain our choice to home school kindly to others? 

Parenting Perspective 

A Short, Calm Reply is Enough 

Once you choose to home-school, you may find that relatives, friends or even strangers ask curious or even challenging questions. It can feel tiring at times, but it is also an opportunity to show grace and confidence in your family’s choice. 

Remind yourself that you do not owe everyone a long explanation. A short, calm reply is often enough. You might say, ‘We decided to home-school because it suits our family best and helps us stay true to our values.’ Speak kindly rather than defensively, even when you feel someone may be judging your decision. 

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Helping Your Child Respond 

Help your child feel at ease when people ask questions too. Teach them that some people simply do not understand what home-schooling means. Practise polite, simple responses together so your child feels confident. For example, they might say, ‘My mum teaches me at home, and we really enjoy it.’ 

Praise your child when they stay calm and polite in these moments. Over time, your thoughtful responses may even soften hearts and open minds. Most importantly, they show your child that you stand by your family’s choices with dignity, trust and gentle strength. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that our words and tone matter greatly, especially when we explain our choices to others. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Nahl (16), Verse 125: 

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best… ‘

This Ayah is a beautiful reminder that kindness, patience, and clarity are far more powerful than defensiveness. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 48, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent. 

Share this with your child so they learn that we do not need to prove ourselves to everyone, sometimes a short, good word is enough. Make a Dua together: ‘O Allah, grant us wisdom and calm speech.’ Help your child see that their education is part of your Amana to raise them with care and sincerity, no matter what others think. When your family speaks with warmth and patience, you reflect the best of Islamic Adab, showing that your choice to home school is not just about academics but about growing hearts that trust Allah Almighty’s plan and treat every question as a chance for kindness, InshaAllah

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