How can I help my child see success as both spiritual and worldly? 

Parenting Perspective 

Broadening the Definition of Success 

Many children grow up thinking that success means top grades, awards, or praise from others. As parents, we can shift this mindset by broadening their definition of what it means to be ‘successful’. Start by highlighting values like honesty, kindness, and consistency just as much as academic results. When your child shows patience with a sibling or puts in steady effort in homework, acknowledge it with the same warmth you would use for a good test score. Say, ‘That showed real strength of character,’ or ‘I love how you kept going, even when it was tough.’ 

Blending Faith with Worldly Contribution 

Use real-life examples that blend faith with worldly contribution. Point out people who serve others through their professions, reminding your child that being a good Muslim includes doing their best in every role, whether as a student, friend, or helper. Encourage them to set two types of goals: one for their learning, and one for their soul, such as remembering a new Dua or being gentler in speech. In doing so, you help them see that both types of success are worthy of celebration. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, true success is multi-dimensional. It is about excelling in the Dunya while preparing meaningfully for the Akhirah. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Qasas (28), Verse 77: 

“And seek (to discover) from what Allah (Almighty) has bestowed upon you for the abode in the Hereafter; and do not forget your (true) functionality in this world; and show favour (onto others) as Allah (Almighty) has shown favour upon you… “

This Ayah beautifully outlines the balance Islam encourages, striving for both spiritual integrity and worldly excellence. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 4237, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

“The most beloved of deeds to Allah are those that are most consistent, even if small. “

This Hadith reinforces that success in Islam is not about one-time achievements or grand gestures. It is about intention, sincerity, and steady effort. Teaching this to your child helps them understand that every moment, whether spent studying, helping a friend, or praying with focus, can count as success when done with purpose and goodness. 

Remind them often that Allah Almighty looks at the heart and the effort, not just the outcome. Let them see you make Duas not only for their grades, but for their character, wisdom, and inner peace. When your child connects their daily work to spiritual growth, school becomes more than a place of competition, it becomes a training ground for service, resilience, and faith. This mindset will help them aim high without arrogance and stay grounded in values that last far beyond exam results.