What’s the best way to demonstrate replacing tech with real connection? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children learn our values by observing our choices. Demonstrating that you prioritise real connection over digital distraction is a powerful, living lesson that shapes their own understanding of relationships. 

Make the Switch Visible and Intentional 

If you are scrolling on your phone when your child enters the room, make a point of deliberately putting it down. A simple statement like, ‘I am going to pause this and spend some time with you instead,’ shows them that people take priority over devices. 

Replace With Genuine Engagement 

Do not just put your device away; replace that time with something warm and interactive. You could invite them to help you make a snack, play a quick card game, or just ask them about their day. The shift should feel like a gain in connection, not a loss of entertainment. 

Reflect on the Choice Together 

After you have spent some time together, you can casually remark, ‘I am so glad I put my phone away. This was much better.’ This simple reflection reinforces the value of human connection in a positive and memorable way, without it feeling like a lecture. 

By consistently choosing real interactions over screens, you model a value system where relationships take precedence, teaching them that connection is active and intentional. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us to give people their due right of attention and to honour them with our sincere presence. This is a cornerstone of building strong, loving relationships. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 10: 

‘The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy…’ 

True brotherhood and strong family bonds are strengthened through active engagement and care, not through passive or distracted co-existence. 

It is recorded in Al Adab Al Mufrad, Hadith 546, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘If one of you loves his brother, he should tell him that he loves him.’ 

This highlights that love and connection are meant to be expressed openly and intentionally, through our words, our actions, and our undivided presence. 

When your child sees you willingly exchange digital attention for real-world warmth, they learn that relationships are built through conscious choices, and that true joy often comes from meaningful moments shared with others.