Parenting Perspective 

In a world that is filled with noise, screens, and constant stimulation, it is natural for children to find stillness boring. You can help to change this perception by presenting quietness as a treasure, a safe and special space where they can feel the nearness of Allah. The words you use are powerful tools for shaping the way they interpret these quiet moments. By framing silence as a precious gift rather than an empty void, you can help them to appreciate stillness with a sense of reverence and joy. 

Use Gentle and Purposeful Invitations 

Instead of commanding your children to be quiet, you can use gentle invitations that give the stillness a warm and loving purpose. 

• ‘Let us sit quietly together for a moment, so we can feel Allah’s love all around us.’ 

• ‘This is our special quiet minute with Allah, who can hear our hearts even when we do not speak.’ 

These invitations help to turn stillness into a meaningful and shared experience, rather than something that is forced upon them. 

Connect Quietness with Comfort and Strength 

You can help your child to build a positive association with quietness by linking it to feelings of comfort and strength. Saying things like, ‘The mercy of Allah feels closest when our hearts are calm and still,’ or, ‘This moment of quiet is a gift from Allah to make our hearts feel strong,’ is very effective. By linking these quiet moments to feelings of strength and comfort, you help your child to see them as something valuable and desirable. 

Express Gratitude for Moments of Stillness 

After a short, shared pause, it is a beautiful practice to express gratitude aloud. A simple phrase such as, ‘Alhamdulillah for this peaceful moment that Allah has given us,’ teaches your children that calmness is in itself a blessing for which we should be thankful. 

Frame Stillness as a Shared Family Treasure 

It can also be helpful to use language that frames these quiet moments as something exclusive and special. You might say, ‘Our quiet time together is a secret gift between us and Allah.’ When stillness is presented as something precious and treasured, children will naturally begin to value it rather than resist it. 

By weaving these words and attitudes into your family’s daily routines, you can teach your children that silence is not empty, but is in fact full of connection and an opportunity to feel the care of Allah. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Quran on Finding Rest in Remembrance 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verses 28: 

‘…Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that one can (and does) find peace of mind and heart….’ 

This verse beautifully illustrates that true inner calm and stillness are the natural results of remembering Allah. When we teach this to our children, we are reminding them that deep and lasting rest is not found in external noise and distraction, but in the quiet remembrance of their Lord. 

Prophetic Wisdom on Silence as an Act of Faith 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6018, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent.’ 

This profound hadith highlights that the conscious choice of silence can be, in itself, a noble act of faith. When parents describe quiet moments as treasured opportunities where Allah listens most closely to our hearts, they help their children to see stillness not as emptiness, but as a form of worship. Over time, your gentle words will help them to grow into adults who cherish moments of silence with Allah as one of the sweetest and most profound parts of their faith.