What steps can parents take if their child calls them out for scrolling during family time? 

Parenting Perspective 

Acknowledge Their Observation 

Hearing a child say, ‘You are always on your phone when we are together,’ can be difficult, but it is often a candid expression of their feelings. Instead of becoming defensive or denying it, the best response is to pause and validate their perspective. A simple reply like, ‘You are right, I was distracted. I want to do better,’ shows humility, teaches children that their voice is valued, and provides a powerful example of accountability. 

Take Immediate, Corrective Action 

Words alone are insufficient. In that moment, the parent should put the phone down and give the child their undivided attention, proving that family time is the priority. Consistently repeating this action helps to rebuild trust and reassures the child that their connection is more important than any digital distraction. 

Create Clear Boundaries Together 

To avoid future conflicts, the family can work together to establish clear, phone-free periods, such as during meals, bedtime routines, or family outings. When these boundaries are created openly and applied equally to everyone, it cultivates an atmosphere of fairness and mutual respect in the home, strengthening family bonds. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Virtue of Moderation and Presence 

Islam teaches that dignity and focus are found in moderation and being present in our interactions. Distractions, whether through noise or inattention, detract from the quality of our character and relationships. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Luqman (31), Verse 19: 

‘And be modest in your attitude and lower your voice (in dealing with people); as indeed, the harshest of all sounds, is the noise of the donkeys.’ 

Excellence Begins in the Home 

The truest measure of a person’s faith is often reflected in their conduct at home. Giving our families attention, kindness, and respect is a cornerstone of excellent character. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, 278, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are best to their families.’ 

Turning Rebuke into Connection 

By responding with humility, taking immediate action, and upholding consistent boundaries, parents demonstrate that they hold family time as sacred. This approach can transform a moment of criticism into an opportunity for growth, helping to build a home where love, respect, and presence are prioritised for the sake of Allah Almighty.