What simple chores are suitable for my SEN child? 

Parenting Perspective 

Building Life Skills and Confidence 

Helping with chores is a gentle way for children, including those with special educational needs (SEN), to build life skills, confidence, and a sense of responsibility. The key is to choose small, realistic tasks that match your child’s strengths and make them feel like a valued part of the family. 

Simple and Safe Chore Ideas 

Start with simple, safe chores they can do alongside you. For younger children or those who need more support, tasks like putting toys away, wiping a table with a cloth, matching socks, or placing napkins on the table for dinner are all great starting points. For older children or those who enjoy repetition, carrying laundry to the basket, feeding a pet, or watering plants can build independence. 

Break Down Tasks and Use Visuals 

Break each chore down into small, clear steps. Use visual checklists or simple picture cards if your child learns best this way. Model the task first—‘Look, we pick up the toys and put them in this box’—then guide their hands if needed until they feel confident. 

Celebrate Effort, Not Perfection 

Keep chores short and realistic. Celebrate their effort more than perfection: ‘You put all the spoons on the table; that was so helpful!’ Avoid re-doing the task in front of them; if something needs fixing, do it later so they do not feel discouraged. Offer choices when you can: ‘Do you want to water the plants or feed the cat?’ This helps your child feel in control and motivated. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, small acts of service around the home are beloved and carry reward. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…‘

This Ayah is a gentle reminder that your child’s effort is enough, however small it may look to others. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ showed us the beauty of helping with chores. He ﷺ mended his clothes, milked his goats, and assisted his family with housework. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 676, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ: 

‘used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was the time for prayer, he would go for it ‘

This Hadith Shareef reminds us that even simple tasks are an act of worship when done with love. 

Make a soft Dua: ‘O Allah Almighty, help my child enjoy helping and bless their efforts.’ Remind your child that tidying, feeding animals, or setting the table are not just chores; they are ways to show gratitude for Allah Almighty’s blessings. 

With your warm encouragement, simple steps, and trust in Allah Almighty’s mercy, your child will, InshaAllah, grow to see small chores not as burdens but as tiny acts of kindness that help the family and please their Lord.