What should I do when they roll their eyes at chores? 

Parenting Perspective 

Eye-rolling is a classic way for children to show their frustration or resistance to chores without outright refusing. While it can feel disrespectful, reacting with anger often escalates the situation. The aim is to keep the boundary firm the chore must still be done while also calmly addressing the attitude. 

Acknowledge the Attitude Without Fuelling It 

You can address the behaviour directly without making it the centre of a large conflict. For example, you could say, ‘I saw that eye-roll. It tells me you are feeling frustrated, but the chore still needs to be completed.’ This makes it clear that their behaviour has been noted, but it will not derail the original instruction. 

Keep the Expectation Steady 

It is important not to get drawn into an argument about their attitude. Simply and calmly restate the original request: ‘Please finish washing the dishes now.’ Your consistency teaches them that rolling their eyes does not change their responsibilities, and that the expectation remains firm. 

Praise Respectful Effort 

When your child manages to complete a chore without a negative attitude, make sure to highlight it with positive feedback. A simple comment like, ‘Thank you for doing that without any complaint today; that shows real maturity,’ makes respectful behaviour feel more rewarding. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that fulfilling our responsibilities, even small household chores, reflects our character and faith. A parent who calmly guides their child through resistance is teaching a profound lesson in self-discipline and sincerity. 

The Value of Striving 

The Quran reminds us that trying to do good, even in small, everyday tasks, is an act that is seen and rewarded by Allah. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ankaboot (29), Verses 69: 

‘ And those people that endeavour (to please) Us (Allah Almighty); so, We (Allah Almighty) shall indeed, guide them (to those pathways) that lead to Us; and indeed, Allah (Almighty) is with those who are benevolent (in their actions).‘ 

Cleanliness as a Part of Faith 

The prophetic tradition elevates the act of cleanliness, teaching us that maintaining order and tidiness in our environment is not just a worldly chore but a spiritual act that is connected to faith itself. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 223, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Cleanliness is half of faith.’ 

By calmly holding firm to your boundaries when your child shows a bad attitude, you are connecting their sense of responsibility to both family values and their faith. They learn that respect means completing their tasks with dignity, and that even small acts of cleanliness and order are a part of living as a believer.