Parenting Perspective 

Correct the Behaviour, Validate the Feeling 

Competitive games can stir up strong emotions, and it is common for children to lash out when they feel frustrated. Rather than punishing them, treat these outbursts as a chance to teach emotional regulation. Pause the game and calmly state, ‘I can see you are feeling upset right now, but we do not use that kind of language in our family.’ This validates their feelings while making it clear that disrespectful behaviour is not acceptable. 

Teach Healthy Outlets for Frustration 

Teach your child healthier ways to cope with the stress of a game, such as taking a short break or using respectful words to express their frustration. You can role-play these alternative responses during a calm moment so they are better prepared for when their emotions are high. Set clear consequences for repeated outbursts, but also be quick to praise any improvements: ‘I noticed you stayed calm even when you lost. I am very proud of you for that.’ 

Build Emotional Regulation 

By combining firm boundaries with emotional coaching, you help your child learn that gaming is meant for enjoyment, and respect must remain even in competition. This helps them build emotional maturity and spiritual strength. 

Spiritual Insight 

Say That Which is Best 

Islam emphasises controlling the tongue and using it only for good. The Quran reminds believers to always speak in the best way, as harsh or ugly words can be a tool for Shaytan to create conflict between people. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 53: 

‘ And inform My servants that they should speak in only the politest manner (when they speak to the extremists in disbelief); indeed, Satan is (always ready for) infusing anarchy between them, as indeed, Satan is the most visible enemy for mankind.’ 

True Strength is Controlling Anger 

The prophetic tradition teaches that true strength is not found in overpowering others or in loud outbursts, but in the quiet, difficult act of controlling one’s anger during a moment of frustration. 

It is recorded in Al Adab Al Mufrad, 1317, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The strong man is not the one who can overpower others, but the one who controls himself when angry.’ 

Gaming as a Chance to Practise Self-Control 

When you remind your child that patience and calm words are beloved to Allah, you transform a simple game into an opportunity for them to practise self-control. Over time, this helps them to replace angry outbursts with dignity, building both their emotional maturity and their spiritual strength.