What should I do if my child’s tantrums make me feel embarrassed or judged?

Islam teaches that dignity in the face of trials, even small ones like a child’s emotional outburst, is a mark of sincerity and strength. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Luqman (31), Verses 17–18: ‘O my son, establish your prayers, and (seek to) promote positivity, and (seek to) diminish negativity; and be patient with what afflictions you come across; indeed, these (matters require) fortified determination and do not turn your cheek from people (in pride and contempt), and do not walk on the Earth in self-glory; indeed, Allah (Almighty) does not love those (people who believe in) self-aggrandizement and boasting.’ This verse encourages persistence in what is right, even under social pressure. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: ‘The strong person is not the one who throws his adversaries to the ground. The strong person is the one who contains himself when he is angry.’ A parent who manages their emotions, even in the face of judgement, shows a strong inner character that is recognised and rewarded by Allah Almighty. In this context, tantrums are not just difficulties for parents but also chances for patience and genuine understanding.