Parenting Perspective 

When a child yells or acts out in public, it can be an uncomfortable experience for a parent. However, public outbursts are not always acts of disrespect they often signal that a child is overwhelmed, overstimulated, or unable to manage their emotions. In busy places like shops, events, or even the Masjid, unfamiliarity and heightened sensory input can trigger distress, especially when the child feels ignored, overstretched, or anxious. The priority in such moments is not to stop the behaviour instantly, but to guide your child back to calm and security without escalating the situation. 

Respond with empathy and structure 

If possible, move to a quieter space. Focus on the underlying emotion, not just the outburst: 

• You seem to be feeling upset at this moment. I am here to assist you in finding a sense of calm. 

Use a calm yet firm tone. Avoid public reprimands. Once your child is settled, reflect on the situation together: 

• When you feel upset, it is better to express that you need help rather than raise your voice. 

Help them see this moment as a learning opportunity by introducing alternative responses for future situations. By responding with composed boundaries, parents teach children how to self-regulate and communicate respectfully even in stressful environments. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty advises in Surah Luqman (31), Verse 19: 

‘And be modest in your attitude and lower your voice (in dealing with people); as indeed, the harshest of all sounds, is the noise of the donkeys.‘

This verse, drawn from a father’s advice to his son, links dignity to voice and behaviour in public. It gently reminds us that loudness and aggression are not traits of strength but of imbalance. Teaching children to lower their voices and act respectfully in public strengthens their spiritual character and social awareness. 

Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was known for his compassion towards children in public settings. It is reported in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1919, that he never embarrassed or harshly corrected them. Instead, he redirected them with mercy. He said: 

‘He is not one of us who does not have mercy on our young and does not respect our elders. ‘

Share this with your child to illustrate that public conduct reflects one’s inner values. Encourage a simple prayer before outings: 

O Allah Almighty, help me speak kindly and act calmly. 

In time, children begin to understand that how they behave in public is a direct expression of their Islamic values not for external validation, but for inner sincerity and harmony with others.