What should I do if my child gives one-word answers because they are eager to get back to their device? 

Parenting Perspective 

One-word answers like ‘fine’ or ‘okay’ are often a clear signal that your child’s mind is still captivated by their screen. Rather than demanding a more detailed response on the spot, it is better to create a gentle moment of transition. You could acknowledge their distraction by saying something like, ‘I can see you are still in game mode. Let’s take just a minute to connect, and then you can get back to it’. This helps them shift their focus without feeling ambushed or annoyed. 

Choose Your Moment Wisely 

Your timing can make a significant difference. Try to start conversations during natural breaks in their screen use, such as between episodes or after they finish a level in a game. This way, you are not competing with the peak intensity of their activity. Using specific and open-ended questions like, ‘What was the most surprising thing that happened at school today?’ can also invite a more thoughtful response than a generic, ‘How was your day?’ 

Keep Connection Light and Non-Confrontational 

It is vital to keep the connection light and welcoming. If every attempt at conversation feels like an interrogation or a test, your child will naturally retreat. Show genuine curiosity in their world and listen without immediately jumping in to correct or lecture. Over time, they will learn that talking with you is not a hurdle to overcome before returning to their device, but an enjoyable and safe pause in their day. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings remind us that our words have weight and purpose, and that speaking with intention is an act of goodness. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Najam (53), Verses 3–4: 

‘ And neither does he (Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) communicate (anything) from his own inclination; except that which is the absolute Divine Revelation (as it is) revealed…‘ 

These verses, describing the speech of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, highlight the divine weight and purpose of words. This reminds us that communication is not meant to be frivolous. By encouraging our children to move beyond one-word answers, we teach them that their own words have value and are worth sharing. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 48, that the holy Prophet Muhammad $ﷺ$ said: 

‘Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent.’ 

This foundational Hadith teaches the value of intentional speech; our words should aim to be beneficial or we should remain silent. Guiding a child towards fuller, more thoughtful communication is a practical application of this principle, showing them that their speech can be a positive and connecting force. 

Encouraging your child to express themselves more fully is not just about gathering information; it is about nurturing their ability to contribute positively to the family’s emotional life. By choosing the right moment, asking thoughtful questions, and valuing every word they offer, you can slowly shift them from rushed replies to meaningful exchanges without it becoming a battle.