What should I do if my child dismisses others’ emotions as being ‘too sensitive’? 

Parenting Perspective 

Connect Their Actions to Others’ Emotions 

When a child dismisses someone as ‘too sensitive,’ it is often a sign that they are struggling to empathise with another person’s feelings. Instead of scolding, begin by explaining that everyone experiences emotions differently: ‘Something that does not feel hurtful to you can still be very upsetting for someone else.’ Encourage them to reflect on their own experiences by asking, ‘How would you feel if someone laughed at you when you were sad?’ This helps them to connect their actions to real feelings. 

Teach Respect for Differences 

It is important to make it clear that dismissing another person’s feelings is not an acceptable response. You can role-play respectful alternatives, such as, ‘I did not realise that would upset you, I will be more careful next time.’ When you see your child showing consideration for others, even in a small way, be sure to praise them. This reinforces the idea that kindness and compassion are more valuable than being dismissive. 

Build Stronger Friendships 

By showing your child that respecting emotions is part of healthy relationships, you help them build stronger friendships and learn accountability for their words and actions. This builds their sensitivity and compassion without making them feel shamed. 

Spiritual Insight 

Protecting Feelings is an Act of Faith 

Islam teaches that the heart of a believer is precious and that we should take care not to cause hurt. The Quran commands believers to make peace between one another, which requires a sensitivity to the feelings of others. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 10: 

‘ Indeed, the believers are brothers (to each other); so, make peace with your brothers; and seek piety from Allah (Almighty) so that you may receive His Mercy.‘ 

Value Others’ Feelings as You Value Your Own 

The prophetic tradition gives us a simple but profound standard for empathy: to love for others what we love for ourselves. This principle requires us to value the feelings of others just as much as we value our own. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, 66, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘None of you will truly believe until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.’ 

Empathy and Gentleness as Acts of Faith 

When you explain to your child that empathy and gentleness are not just social skills but are also acts of faith, they learn a profound lesson. They begin to understand that dismissing another’s feelings is not a sign of strength, but a weakness of character. This helps them to grow into compassionate individuals whose words are a source of healing, not harm.