What should I do if I have apologised but my child keeps bringing up the same moment again and again? 

Parenting Perspective 

A child who keeps bringing up an instance that caused them pain is probably still attempting to make sense of what happened and how they feel about it. This is not an indication of manipulation or stubbornness. It is emotional processing, which is particularly prevalent in children who do not have the language or self-control to advance right away. Try acknowledging their ongoing suffering by saying something like, You are still thinking about that moment, rather than reacting angrily, But I already said sorry. I get it. Do you want to discuss it once more? This shows your child that you are willing to re-establishing contact as much as necessary and that your apology was not a way to end the relationship. Allow them to recount the incident without hurrying to correct or explain it. This lets them know that even after the event is done, their feelings are important. They will inevitably start to bring it up less as they feel safe and heard. In this way, emotional trust is developed through consistent indications of safety rather than one-time actions. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, healing is understood as a journey, not a switch. The noble Quran reassures us in Surah Al Inshirah (94), Verses 5–6: 

“Thus with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). Indeed, with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). “

The repetition here is not superfluous; rather, it captures the multi-layered sense of relief and struggle, which frequently occur simultaneously. The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ never dismissed recurring pain, even when it had already been spoken of. He gave people space to grieve, question, and return. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6125, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

“Make things easy for the people, and do not make it difficult for them, and make them calm (with glad tidings) and do not repulse (them). “

If your child reopens an old wound, gently meet them again. Repeating reassurance is a sign of spiritual patience, not weakness. It demonstrates that your mercy endures long after the time has passed.