What should I ask for in a SEN support meeting? 

Parenting Perspective 

Go in Prepared 

A SEN support meeting is your chance to share what you know about your child, ask questions and agree on clear steps to help them at school. Try to go in prepared by writing down your main concerns and examples of what you see at home. 

Ask Specific Questions 

Ask about your child’s progress so far. What is working well and where are they still finding things difficult? Request to see any records, learning plans or reports the school has. Be specific with your questions. You might ask, ‘How will this strategy help my child?’ or ‘When will we look at their progress again?’ 

Discuss Practical Support 

Talk about practical support that could help, such as extra help in lessons, sensory breaks, visual aids or changes to the classroom environment. It is useful to agree on who will be responsible for each action and when it will be checked again. 

Get Everything in Writing 

Always ask for everything to be written down. You have the right to receive meeting notes and a copy of any updated plan for your child. 

Remember, you are an equal partner in this process. If you feel nervous or overwhelmed, bring a trusted family member or friend to support you. Be polite but firm. Your goal is not to expect perfection overnight but to make sure your child feels understood, supported and able to flourish at their own pace. Your voice matters and your calm confidence can help create real change. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us that knowledge and action go hand in hand. By attending a SEN meeting with calm preparation and good intention, you are fulfilling your duty as a guardian who seeks the best for their child. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mujadila (58), Verse 11: 

‘Allah will raise those who have believed among you and those who were given knowledge, by degrees. ‘

This Ayah shows us the value of seeking understanding and sharing it wisely. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them. ‘

This Hadith Shareef reminds us that advocating for your child is an act of love and responsibility, not conflict. Make sincere Dua before each meeting for calm speech, clear thought and the hearts of teachers to be open. Trust that Allah Almighty sees your effort to speak up for your child, and that He rewards every word spoken with sincerity and respect. Keep your tone gentle yet confident, and believe that each practical step agreed today, no matter how small, can become a source of ease and Barakah for your child’s learning journey.