What should families do if one parent resists digital detox practices at home? 

Parenting Perspective 

Start with Understanding, Not Criticism 

Tension can easily arise when one parent is keen to implement a digital detox and the other is resistant. The first step is not to criticise, but to seek to understand the reason for the resistance. Perhaps they feel it is impractical, or they worry about losing their personal time to unwind. By listening first, a spouse shows respect and ensures the conversation does not immediately turn to blame. 

Frame It as a Shared Value, Not a Restriction 

Rather than presenting the detox as another set of rules, it is better to frame it as a way of protecting the family’s connection and wellbeing. Saying, ‘I want us to be more present for the children so they never feel that our phones are more important than they are,’ shifts the focus from control to care. When the idea is linked to love, unity, and seeking barakah, it feels less like a restriction and more like a shared family value. 

Start Small and Build Gradually 

It is often best to start with small, manageable changes. A family could begin with just one or two simple practices, such as no phones at the dinner table or a tech-free half-hour before bed. Once these habits become normal, it is easier to introduce other changes. This gradual approach allows a resistant parent to adapt without feeling pressured into an abrupt lifestyle shift. 

Spiritual Insight 

Cooperating in Righteousness 

The Quran commands believers to cooperate with one another in acts of righteousness and piety. For parents, working together to protect their family’s time and attention from the excesses of technology is a profound act of worship. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Maaidah (5), Verse 2: 

‘…And participate with each other to promote righteousness and piety, and do not collaborate in the committal of any sin or moral transgression…’ 

Good Character Begins at Home 

The prophetic tradition teaches that the truest measure of a person’s faith and character is how they treat their family. Approaching disagreements with a spouse with patience, kindness, and a desire for cooperation is a sign of spiritual excellence. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, 278, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most perfect of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are those who are best to their families.’ 

Building Unity Through Empathy 

By approaching resistance with empathy, framing the detox as a shared value, and introducing changes gradually, a family can build unity around digital discipline. This ensures children see a consistent and united front at home, learning that technology can be managed with love and balance for the sake of Allah Almighty.