Parenting Perspective 

Rebuilding rapport after a conflict is crucial, and one of the most effective ways to restore connection is through shared activities, particularly practical chores or tasks. Working together not only helps strengthen the bond but also teaches teamwork, mutual respect, and patience. It shows your child that your relationship is important and gives both of you the chance to communicate in a non-confrontational way. 

Tidy and Organise the Home Together 

Household chores are an excellent way to rebuild rapport because they require cooperation. 

• Examples: 

• Cleaning the living room or kitchen: This can be an enjoyable task where you work together to tidy up. 

• Organising shared spaces: Tidying up shared areas while having casual conversations can help reconnect emotionally. 

Cook or Bake Together 

Cooking or baking as a family can be a fun, hands-on way to reconnect. It gives both parent and child a shared goal and an opportunity to bond. 

• Examples: 

• Prepare dinner or bake treats: Working together on making a family meal or baking cookies can build rapport. 

• Create a family recipe book: This turns cooking into a meaningful family tradition. 

Garden or Plant Together 

Gardening offers a calm, therapeutic activity that can be particularly meaningful when rebuilding rapport. It requires patience and attention to detail. 

• Examples: 

• Plant a small garden or pot plants: Working on gardening tasks can teach children responsibility. 

• Water plants and maintain them together: This reinforces the idea of nurturing and consistent care. 

Share Household Management Tasks 

Another way to rebuild rapport is by involving children in managing household responsibilities together. This can help them feel empowered and valued. 

• Examples: 

• Set up a family calendar: Planning upcoming events and activities together encourages cooperation. 

• Create a chore chart: A chore chart that you both use can make chores feel like a shared responsibility. 

Engage in Creative Tasks Together 

Sometimes, repairing a relationship requires stepping outside of everyday tasks and engaging in something more creative. 

• Examples: 

• Build a project together: Simple tasks like assembling a puzzle or a model can be excellent bonding experiences. 

• Create a family art project: Drawing or painting as a family can provide an opportunity to create new, positive memories. 

Take Walks or Exercise Together 

Repairing a relationship can be about engaging in a shared activity that allows for connection without direct confrontation. Walking or light exercise offers a non-threatening environment. 

• Examples: 

• Go for a walk or nature hike: Walking together can open up spaces for natural conversation. 

• Engage in simple home exercises: Doing yoga or stretching together can be another way to build connection. 

Focus on Praise and Appreciation During Tasks 

As you engage in these shared activities, it is important to incorporate praise and positive reinforcement. Acknowledge the efforts your child is putting into the task. 

• What to say: You might say, ‘I really appreciate how you helped me with that project. It feels so much better when we work together.’ 

Spiritual Insight 

The Importance of Positive Communication 

The noble Quran teaches us the importance of speaking kindly and engaging positively with others, especially when relationships need mending. By participating in shared activities, parents and children communicate in a peaceful and constructive way. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 159: 

‘So, it is by the mercy from Allah (Almighty) that you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) are lenient with them…’ 

This fosters a loving environment that is rooted in respect and care. 

The Value of Gratitude 

The teachings of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ underscore the importance of expressing gratitude in our relationships. By working together on chores, parents and children can build a strong bond of mutual respect and appreciation. 

It is recorded in Al Adab Al Mufrad, Hadith 218, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever does not thank the people, does not thank Allah.’ 

This reinforces that teamwork and gratitude are vital components of a healthy relationship. Each chore or activity becomes a chance to build rapport, show appreciation, and grow closer as a family.