Parenting Perspective 

Children often face a barrage of questions in the morning: “Did you pack your bag?”, “Have you finished your homework?”, “Where are your shoes?”; all are practical but rarely connecting. Too many checklist-style questions can feel like interrogation, leaving them tense before school. Instead, asking one simple, open-ended question that invites sharing builds connection without pressure. 

Choosing the Right Question 

The goal is to spark gentle reflection, not demand detail. One good question might be: 

“What is one thing you are looking forward to today?” 

This shifts the focus from tasks to feelings. It helps your child think positively and shows that you care about their inner world, not just logistics. For a child who struggles with school, the question could be softened: “What is something small that could make today easier?” 

Delivering With Warmth 

• Ask while making eye contact, perhaps during breakfast or as you walk to the door. 

• Keep your tone light and curious, not urgent. 

• Accept any answer, even silence, with patience. Over time, children will open up more when they see your interest is genuine. 

This one intentional question builds emotional connection while keeping mornings calm, leaving children reassured that their voice matters before they face the outside world. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that asking with kindness and listening with sincerity are acts of mercy. Checking in on one another’s wellbeing is a form of compassion that strengthens bonds within the family. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Nisa (4), Verses 86: 

‘And when you are greeted with a welcome, then greet them with (a welcome that is) even better than that, or (at least) return it (in the same manner)…’ 

This reminds us that responding to others with warmth and care deepens connection and strengthens trust. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2564, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believer is like a mirror to another believer: he protects him from harm and looks out for him.’ 

This teaches us that part of faith is checking on one another’s wellbeing, reflecting love and care back. 

By asking just one thoughtful question each morning, you show your child that their thoughts and feelings matter. They learn that connection is built through curiosity, kindness, and compassion values that are at the heart of both parenting and faith.