Parenting Perspective 

Children often resist apologising when it feels forced, rushed, or demanded in front of others. Instead of commanding “Say sorry now,” parents can use a one-line question that gently opens the door, leaving space for reflection. This allows the child to approach repair in their own time, while still being guided towards responsibility. 

Use Gentle, Open Language 

Examples of one-line questions include: 

• “Is there something you would like to make right later?” 

• “What could you do to help this feel better?” 

• “How do you think we could fix this?” 

Allow Time and Privacy 

By framing it as a question, you give your child the option to pause and reflect instead of reacting defensively. Encourage them to apologise later in private if that feels easier. 

Model Calm Repair 

When parents themselves make amends slowly and thoughtfully, children see that apologies are not about pressure but about sincerity. 

This approach makes apologies an act of integrity rather than compliance, nurturing empathy and genuine responsibility. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam places strong emphasis on seeking forgiveness and reconciling with others, but always with sincerity. A gentle invitation aligns with this, as true apology must come from the heart, not compulsion. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Aa’raaf (7), Verses 199: 

‘(O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) adopt a forgiving approach, and encourage (the doing of) positive (moral) actions, and disregard those who are imbued in their ignorance.’ 

This reminds us that forgiveness and gentle correction are part of a believer’s character. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2588, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but Allah increases him in honour, and no one humbles himself for Allah but Allah raises him.’ 

This teaches us that forgiveness and humility bring honour and reward, not loss. 

By using a one-line, gentle question to invite apologies, you guide your child towards humility without coercion. They learn that making amends is a noble act loved by Allah Almighty, and that sincere repair strengthens relationships far more than rushed words ever could.