Parenting Perspective 

Model Respect for Personal Space 

Respecting boundaries is essential for a harmonious home. Children need to learn that every family member has a right to their own space and privacy. The best way to teach this is to model the behaviour yourself: knock before entering your child’s room and ask permission before using their belongings. When a boundary is crossed, offer a gentle reminder: ‘In our family, we always ask before we borrow someone’s things.’ 

Create a Family Culture of Respect 

Help your children to understand that boundaries are not about creating distance, but about showing care for each other’s comfort. You can establish simple house rules, such as knocking on closed doors, and apply them to everyone. It is important to praise your child when you see them respecting a boundary: ‘It was very thoughtful of you to ask before entering your brother’s room.’ This reinforces that respecting limits is an act of love. 

Boundaries as an Act of Respect 

By teaching boundaries as acts of respect rather than simple rules, you prepare your children for healthier relationships both inside the home and in their future lives. This builds a foundation of trust and mutual consideration. 

Spiritual Insight 

Seeking Permission Before Entering 

Islam provides clear and beautiful guidance on respecting the privacy of others. The Quran commands believers not to enter another’s home without first seeking permission and giving greetings, establishing a principle of respect for personal space. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Noor (24), Verse 27: 

‘ O those of you who are believers, do not enter houses (of other people) except your own homes; unless you have permission from them, (and when you do) say Salaams upon the inhabitants…’ 

The Sanctity of Privacy 

The prophetic tradition emphasises the sanctity of a person’s home and privacy so strongly that it permits a homeowner to defend their home against spying. This teaches us the immense importance of not violating another’s private space. 

It is recorded in Sunan Nisai, 4861, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘If a man looks into your house without permission and you throw a stone at him and put out his eye, there will be no blame on you.’ 

Boundaries as Part of Faith 

When you connect the concept of personal boundaries to Islamic teachings, children learn that respecting another’s space is not just a matter of politeness, but is a part of our faith. This understanding helps to nurture dignity, safety, and mercy within the home, making it a place of trust and barakah.