What is the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown? 

Children’s intense reactions are part of their growing self-regulation. Islam offers a model of parenting that balances mercy and structure. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqaan (25), Verse 74: ‘And those people that say: “O our Sustainer, Grant to us (those circumstances that) makes our spouses and our offspring, a comfort for our eyes; and make us from those that have attained piety, and a role model”.’ This prayer highlights the deep connection between parents and their children, acknowledging the important part children have in spiritual growth. When a parent calmly handles a meltdown without making things worse, they demonstrate the quality of patience. The noble Quran often highlights patience as a characteristic of true believers.

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2381, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated:
‘He who shows no mercy to the people, Allah shows him no mercy.’ In difficult situations, like when a child is struggling to manage their emotions, the approach of the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was to avoid immediate scolding and instead respond with wisdom and understanding. Parents should be compassionate while maintaining limits, understanding that a child’s struggle to manage emotions is not defiance but rather a sign of needing support and direction.