What Is a Kind Way to Leave an Online Game When Others Are Rude? 

Parenting Perspective 

Online games can be an exciting and sociable activity for children, but they can also expose them to rude comments, unkind teasing, or unfair play. In these situations, walking away is often the wisest and most powerful choice, but children may not know how to leave a game without feeling embarrassed or making the situation worse. By teaching them a kind and dignified way to exit, you help them to protect their feelings while modelling respect and self-control. 

Reframe Leaving as an Act of Strength 

It is crucial to help your child see that disengaging from a negative situation is a sign of strength, not weakness. You can remind them, ‘Walking away from rudeness does not mean that you are weak or that you have lost. It means that you are wise and strong enough to choose not to join in with that kind of negativity.’ This reframes the act of leaving as a confident and mature choice. 

Equip Them with Simple and Dignified Exit Phrases 

Coach your child with a few short, polite, and neutral phrases that they can type before they log off. You could suggest they use words like: 

• ‘I am going to log off now. Perhaps we can play another time.’ 

• ‘Thank you for the game, but I think I will stop here for today.’ 

• ‘I do not enjoy this kind of rude talk, so I am going to leave this round.’ 

These calm and respectful responses are not confrontational and allow them to leave with their dignity intact. 

Encourage Reflection on Their Feelings 

After your child has left the game, take a moment to talk with them about how it felt. You could ask, ‘How did you feel in your heart when you chose to step away from that rude chat instead of staying?’ This helps them to build an awareness of how choosing calmness and kindness protects their own peace of mind. 

Acknowledge and Praise Their Self-Control 

When your child manages to leave a negative situation politely, be sure to affirm their choice. You could say, ‘I really liked how you left that game without being rude back to them. That showed real maturity and self-respect.’ This helps them to feel proud of their self-control. 

Build Their Confidence Through Practice 

You can prepare your child for these challenging online moments by acting them out at home. You might pretend to be another player and say, ‘You are so bad at this game!’ Then, guide your child to practise a calm response, such as, ‘Thanks for the game, but I will stop here for today.’ This rehearsal builds their confidence and makes the real moment easier to handle. 

By giving your children the right words, a clear perspective, and the confidence to leave a negative situation, you empower them to rise above online negativity without feeling defeated. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us to actively avoid bad company, harmful speech, and any situation that might compromise our dignity or character. Learning to leave a situation politely when faced with rudeness is a reflection of sabr (patience) and good character. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al An’aam (6), Verse 68: 

‘And whenever you observe those people who engage in (blasphemous and frivolous) discourse in regards to Our Signs (of the infinite truth), then abstain from them until they start a discourse on other subjects; and if the Satan was to cause you to forget (their blasphemous and frivolous discourse), then after you have remembered, do not continue to sit with those people who are imbued in the darkness (of their ignorance and immorality).’ 

While this verse refers specifically to offensive discourse about religion, its principle is universal: when we are in a place where harmful and wrongful talk is taking place, the correct and righteous response is to turn away and leave. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 1734, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believer is not one who taunts, curses, speaks obscenities, or abuses.’ 

This hadith is a reminder that a true believer always maintains their dignity in their words and their actions. For a child, this means that the correct response to a rude online game is to leave without lowering themselves to the same level of negativity. 

When children learn to exit online games with kindness and self-respect, they are actively practising patience, protecting their own character, and showing respect even in challenging digital spaces. These important habits help them to grow into individuals who value peace and dignity, reflecting the noble prophetic manners both online and offline.