What if my child’s teacher disagrees with my concerns? 

Parenting Perspective 

Approaching the Conversation with a Calm Mind 

It can feel discouraging when a teacher does not see the same things you notice at home. Remember that teachers often see children in busy group settings, so some struggles may be less obvious in the classroom. Try to stay calm and approach the conversation with respect and a clear mind. 

Sharing Specific Examples 

Share specific examples that show what you are concerned about. Talk about times when your child seems overwhelmed, has trouble focusing or reacts strongly to things that other children seem to handle more easily. Bring along any notes you have made, a simple behaviour log or observations from other carers who spend time with your child. 

Listening and Seeking a Second Opinion 

Listen carefully to the teacher’s perspective too. They may see things you do not and together you may find a clearer picture. If you still feel that your concerns are not being heard, ask kindly for a second opinion from the school’s SEN coordinator or a specialist teacher who has more experience with additional needs. Try to keep as much communication in writing as possible. This can help protect you and your child if you need to ask for extra support later. 

Above all, trust your instincts. You know your child best. Seeking help does not mean you are looking for problems where there are none, it shows how much you want to understand your child and help them thrive. Stay firm but respectful. Often your calm persistence will speak louder than any frustration. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us of those disagreements, even with people in authority, should be handled with wisdom, patience and hope. When someone dismisses your genuine concerns, it can feel painful, but remember, Allah Almighty knows what is hidden in every heart. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Imran (3), Verse 159: 

‘So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. ‘

This Ayah shows that gentleness opens doors that harshness cannot. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1828, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Allah is not kind to him who is not kind to people. ‘

This Hadith Shareef reminds us that kindness in speech and action is always rewarded, even when you feel frustrated or unheard. Make sincere Dua for calmness, for your words to find the right ears, and for the teacher’s heart to open to what you share. Trust that your effort to advocate for your child is an act of Ibadah, fulfilling your Amanah as a parent. Keep your faith strong and your tone warm; by doing so, you plant seeds of understanding that, with Allah Almighty’s mercy, can grow into the support your child truly needs.