What if my child runs off in public? 

Parenting Perspective 

Understanding the Behaviour 

When your child runs off in public, it can be terrifying, especially if they do not respond when called or do not recognise danger. Some children, particularly those with special educational needs (SEN), have little sense of boundaries and may bolt when anxious, curious, or overstimulated. The first step is to plan with calm, realistic safety measures. 

Plan Ahead with Clear Rules 

Before you leave home, talk to your child about the outing. Use simple, repeated rules: ‘Stay close to me,’ ‘Hold my hand,’ or ‘Wait if you want to look at something.’ It is best to practise these during quieter trips so they become habits. 

Use Practical Safety Tools and Strategies 

If your child is prone to running off suddenly, consider safety tools like wrist straps, harnesses, or pushchairs for younger children. Dress them in bright, distinctive clothes and take a quick photo of what they are wearing each time you go out. Carry an ID card in their pocket or a bracelet with your name and phone number. If your child struggles with speech, teach them to show the card if they need help. For older children, teach them simple instructions for if they get separated: ‘Stop where you are,’ or ‘Find a safe adult, like a mother with children.’ 

In the Moment and Afterwards 

If your child does run off, stay as calm as possible. Shout their name clearly and scan the area quickly. Do not be afraid to ask for help; describe what your child is wearing and what they respond to best. When you find them, keep your tone firm but loving: ‘I know you wanted to explore, but it is not safe to run away. Next time, you must stay close.’ Afterwards, when you are both calm, talk through what happened. Celebrate the moments they did stay close and remind them that safety is part of looking after one another. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us to protect our families and take every wise precaution, while remembering that ultimate safety comes from Allah Almighty. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Imran (3), Verse 159: 

‘…And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].‘

This Ayah reminds us to tie our camel, to plan and act responsibly, then place our trust in His care. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ showed us that safeguarding those in our care is part of our Amanah. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1705, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Every one of you is a shepherd and everyone is responsible for his flock.‘

This Hadith Shareef highlights that your calm vigilance and wise safety steps are acts of worship too. 

Make a simple Dua before leaving: ‘O Allah Almighty, protect my child and return us home safely.’ Trust that your efforts, and your moments of Sabr when things go wrong, are seen by the One who knows every step your child takes.