What helps when I feel like I am constantly nagging instead of connecting? 

Parenting Perspective 

If nagging takes up much of your day, it probably indicates emotional detachment. When they do not feel seen, children tend to ignore repeated instructions. Try asking, How can we solve this together? instead of giving orders. Use routines instead of reminders; checklists or visual charts help children take responsibility for their work. Set up a specific connection-only period of time each day for play or conversation only, with no rules. Restoring emotional connection frequently makes cooperation easier and more organic. 

Spiritual Insight 

Connection over coercion aligns with prophetic wisdom. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aal-i-Imran (3), Verse 159: 

‘…And if you had been harsh (in your speech) or restrained in your heart, they would have dispersed from around you… ‘

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ guided with affection, even in correction. It is recorded in Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 4809, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.‘

His reminders were compassionate, timely, and pertinent. Even when structure is required, adopting this method fosters warmth.