What helps deepen connection if I was not emotionally close to my child in their early years?

Parenting Perspective 

It is Never Too Late 

With patience and sincerity, emotional intimacy can be fostered at any stage of life, not just in the early years. Recognise the distance first, without feeling guilty or over-explaining. Trust can be established with straightforward and sincere statements. 

Practical Steps for Reconnection 

Consistent presence, rather than extravagant actions, is the foundation of connection. Ask them about their hobbies, eat with them, or just sit quietly next to them. Excuses are not as effective as these moments. Refrain from making corrections in every interaction. Rather, become an observer of their universe. Make eye contact that says, I see you, and express interest in their thoughts. You are important. Even innocuous or neutral exchanges eventually take on emotional significance. 

The Power of the Present Moment 

The present can be made softer, but the past cannot be altered. Children frequently react more to our current presence than to what was overlooked in the past. Reconnection opens the door to greater trust when it is approached with humility. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam values sincere beginnings and honest reparation. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Zumar (39), Verse 53: 

‘Say (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ): O my servants, those of you who have transgressed against yourselves (by committing sin); do not lose hope in the mercy of Allah (Almighty)…. ‘

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 4297, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Allah is more merciful to His servants than a mother is to her child. ‘

This act of divine kindness serves as a reminder that relationships can change and are always better when addressed sincerely. By being deliberately present, you educate your child that love is not age-related and may be rekindled via hard work, integrity, and compassion.