What helps children see that I rely on Allah in daily struggles? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children learn a great deal about handling challenges simply by watching the way you respond to them. If they only ever see you reacting with frustration or seeking purely worldly solutions, they may conclude that relying on Allah is something separate from the reality of daily life. However, when you are able to show them, through your simple words and actions, that your strength in moments of struggle comes from Allah, they will begin to form a powerful connection between faith and resilience. 

Verbalise Your Reliance on Allah 

When you are facing a difficulty, no matter how small, it is helpful to speak your reliance on Allah out loud. 

• ‘This is proving to be difficult, but I know that Allah will help me through it.’ 

• ‘I am not sure what the answer is right now, but I am making dua about it.’ 

Hearing you say these things teaches your child an important lesson: that faith and practical problem-solving are designed to work together. 

Model Spontaneous Dua in Small Moments 

Get into the habit of pausing to make a short, sincere dua when you lose your keys, feel tired, or are facing a stressful task. Even quietly whispering, ‘Ya Allah, please grant me patience,’ demonstrates that turning to Allah is a natural, first response, not just something reserved for formal prayer times. 

Acknowledge Allah’s Help in Positive Outcomes 

When a difficult situation is resolved, it is important to close the loop by showing gratitude to Allah. Telling your children, ‘Alhamdulillah, Allah made that situation easy for us in the end,’ shows them that reliance on Him is rewarded. This helps to cultivate a sense of gratitude over pride. 

Demonstrate Reliance Through a Calm Demeanour 

Your emotional response during a struggle speaks volumes. When you can take a deep breath, keep your tone of voice soft, and mention Allah’s name, your children witness reliance not just as words, but as a lived and calm behaviour. 

Invite Your Child to Rely on Allah with You 

You can make reliance on Allah a shared family practice by encouraging your children to join you in making dua for small, everyday matters. This could be for a school test, a minor illness, or even a lost toy. This habit teaches them that there is no problem too small to bring to Allah. 

Through these steps, reliance on Allah becomes a visible and practical part of your family life, providing your children with a powerful model of faith that is both strong and deeply comforting. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Quran on the Sufficiency Found in Reliance 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Talaaq (65), Verses 3: 

‘…And whoever is reliant on Allah (Almighty), then He is Sufficient for him (in every way)…’ 

This verse contains a beautiful and powerful promise: that true reliance on Allah brings with it a sense of sufficiency, peace, and completeness. Teaching this to your children reminds them that the help of Allah is always greater and more reliable than any struggle they may face. 

Prophetic Wisdom on True, Active Reliance 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 4164, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘If you were to rely upon Allah with the reliance, He is due, you would be given provision like the birds: they go out hungry in the morning and return full in the evening.’ 

This hadith paints a vivid picture of what true reliance looks like. It is an active trust in which we do our part, just as the birds go out to seek their provision, while holding a firm and unwavering belief that Allah is the one who will provide. When parents are able to live this balance openly, their children learn to see faith not as a passive theory, but as a source of lived resilience. They grow up knowing that turning to Allah in their struggles is a source of profound strength, not weakness.