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What does it mean if my child withdraws emotionally, and how should I respond? 

Parenting Perspective

Emotional disengagement may be an indication of unfulfilled needs, overwhelm, or fear of being judged. Not all of it is defiance. In situations when they feel ignored, misinterpreted, or overcorrected, children tend to withdraw. Provide a soothing presence by sitting close to them, speaking softly, or being physically close to them rather than pressuring them to talk. Say something like, ‘I am here when you are ready,’ instead of, ‘Tell me now.’ By exercising patience, avoiding questioning, and establishing brief, low-pressure connections, such as playing side by side or taking a stroll, you can restore emotional stability.  

Spiritual Insight

Silence or withdrawal can be signs of deep emotion. Even in his pain, the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ would retreat to reflect, such as in the Cave of Hira. Respecting space is not indifference; it is a form of mercy. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Qalam (68), Verse 4: ‘And indeed, you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ innately) possess characteristics that are the greatest (example).’ It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 923, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, ‘This is compassion, which Allah Almighty has placed in the hearts of His servants, and God shows compassion only to those of His servants who are compassionate.’ Show your child the same grace and compassion, and give them room to feel, but be there to support them no matter what. 

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