What does an emotionally safe ‘tech-free’ family time look like in practice? 

Parenting Perspective 

Emotionally safe, tech-free family time is about more than just putting devices aside; it is about creating an environment where everyone feels relaxed, valued, and able to connect without digital distractions. The goal is not merely the absence of screens, but the presence of warm and meaningful interaction. 

Remove Tech, Add Warmth 

To reduce temptation, it helps to physically place devices in another room. At the same time, add warmth to the environment to make it feel special and inviting. You could light a candle, prepare a favourite family snack, or gather in a comfortable space. 

Focus on Shared Enjoyment 

Choose activities that naturally encourage conversation, laughter, and teamwork. This could be something as simple as cooking a meal together, playing a board game, going for a neighbourhood walk, or sharing stories from the day. The focus should be on shared enjoyment. 

Keep the Atmosphere Judgement-Free 

For this time to feel truly safe, the atmosphere must be free from pressure. Avoid using this time to lecture, correct behaviour, or discuss stressful topics. Instead, hold the space for lightness, fun, and authentic sharing, allowing everyone to be themselves. 

When this time is intentional, warm, and free from pressure, your child will associate tech-free moments with comfort and connection, making them more likely to look forward to them. 

Spiritual Insight 

From an Islamic perspective, time spent strengthening family connections is a form of worship when undertaken with the right intention. Creating a space for wholesome companionship, free from harmful distractions, is in harmony with the prophetic example. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Rome (30), Verse 21: 

‘ And amongst His Signs (of the infinite truth) are that He (Allah Almighty) created for you, your (matrimonial) partners from your species so that you may find tranquillity from them; and designed between you love, tolerance and kindness…‘ 

Although this verse refers to spouses, the principles of finding tranquillity through affection and mercy are the foundations of all strong family relationships, including between parents and children. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 481, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘A believer is to another believer like a building whose different parts enforce each other.’ 

This beautiful analogy teaches us that family members are meant to strengthen one another through their presence, support, and shared moments of connection. 

By making tech-free time a safe and enjoyable space, you model that real connection is built on presence, affection, and mutual support. These are values that will, God willing, stay with your child for life.