What daily reflection habits can help them assess their own tech use? 

Parenting Perspective 

Teaching children to reflect on their own habits is a powerful step towards self-regulation. Instead of just imposing rules, these simple routines help them to become more aware of their own well-being. 

Make It Short and Predictable 

Daily reflection is most effective when it is a simple and consistent habit. Set aside just a few minutes at the same time each day, such as before bed, to have a brief chat. A simple three-question check-in can work well: ‘What was the best part of your day?’, ‘Did screen time make you feel more energised or more tired?’, and ‘What do you wish you had done more of today?’ 

Use Visual Reminders 

For younger children, visual aids can be very helpful. You could create a simple chart where they can put a coloured sticker to show how they felt after their screen time each day. Over a week or two, they will begin to see the patterns for themselves, which is far more effective than you just telling them. 

Celebrate Self-Awareness, Not Perfection 

If your child honestly admits, ‘I think I spent too much time on my tablet today,’ praise their self-awareness. The goal is not to catch them making mistakes, but to build the skill of self-assessment. This makes them more likely to manage their own time better in the long run. 

By making reflection a normal part of the day, you empower your child to make healthier choices for themselves. 

Spiritual Insight 

Reflection and self-accountability (muhasabah) are deeply Islamic practices that help a believer to remain mindful of their actions and how they use their time. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hashr (59), Verse 18: 

‘O you who have believed, fear Allah. And let every soul look to what it has put forth for tomorrow. And fear Allah. Indeed, Allah is aware of what you do…’ 

This reminds us that regularly reviewing our daily actions is a crucial part of preparing for our future accountability to God. 

It is recorded in Al Adab Al Mufrad, Hadith 606, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The wise person is the one who holds himself to account and works for what is after death’ 

This teaches us that the practice of self-reflection is a sign of true wisdom and foresight. 

By helping your child end each day with a small moment of honest self-check, you are not only guiding their tech habits but also instilling a life skill that strengthens both their character and their faith.