What can I say to my child to help them keep going during exams? 

Parenting Perspective 

Acting as an Emotional Anchor 

Exams can create pressure, even for young children, so your role as a parent is to act as an emotional anchor. The words you choose during this time shape how your child sees themselves and their efforts. Say phrases like, ‘You have worked with care, and that already makes me proud,’ or ‘Take one question at a time, and do your best.’ These calm, affirming words reduce anxiety and help them feel supported. 

Maintaining a Healthy Rhythm and Responding with Empathy 

Ensure that their daily rhythm includes rest, nutritious food, physical movement, and moments of warmth. A hug in the morning or a handwritten note in their bag can make a big difference. Let them hear you say, ‘Your value is not in your marks, but in your character and effort.’ Encourage deep breaths before starting and help them practise visualising calm success. If they express worry, respond with empathy rather than correction. Remind them gently, ‘It is okay to feel nervous. That means you care.’ 

Above all, focus on their well-being over perfection. When children feel emotionally secure, they perform with greater clarity and confidence. Knowing that they are not defined by numbers but are held in love brings courage to keep going. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

“Allah (Almighty) does not place any burden on any human being except that which is within his capacity…. “

This profound Verse comforts the believer with the knowledge that every challenge faced is within their ability to endure. Share this message with your child, helping them understand that exams are not meant to break them but to bring out their inner strength and reliance on Allah Almighty. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1930, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

“Whoever relieves a Muslim of a burden in this world, Allah will relieve him of a burden on the Day of Judgement. “

Offering calm, reassurance, and kindness during a stressful time like exams is not just good parenting, it is an act of spiritual reward. When you help your child breathe easier, you are sowing seeds of mercy that Allah Almighty promises to return. 

Remind your child to say a short Dua before they begin: O Allah, make it easy, and bring success from You alone. Encourage them to view each exam not as a test of worth but as an opportunity to practise Sabr, trust, and effort. Even a challenging paper becomes a chance to lean on Allah Almighty and discover resilience within. When children see exams as part of their faith journey, they face them not with fear, but with faith and dignity.