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- Should I use time-outs for tantrums or is there a better way?
- What kind of discipline strategies work for tantrums without shaming the child?
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- What can I do when my child starts screaming or crying the moment I say ‘no’ to something they want?
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- As a parent, what is my role in a tantrum?
- How can I handle my child’s tantrums without shouting or losing my temper?
- How can I help my child manage frustration when they struggle with something new, like tying shoes or writing?
- How can I teach my child to recognise when they are about to lose control and ask for help before it escalates?
- How do I handle it if my child seems proud or amused after a tantrum?
- How do I handle it when my child screams ‘I hate you!’ during a tantrum?
- How do I involve my child in creating their own calming strategies or quiet-down plans?
- How do I recognise my child’s early warning signs before a tantrum starts?
- How do I stay connected with my child even when I have to set limits?
- How do I stop my toddler from banging their head or hurting themselves during a tantrum?
- Is it normal for my child to forget what happened after a meltdown?
- What can I do when my child’s tantrum turns into silence or emotional withdrawal instead of shouting?
- What does emotional safety look like in a faith-based home?
- What role does connection and attention play in reducing tantrums?
- What should I do if my child’s tantrums make me feel embarrassed or judged?
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- How can I remain calm and not take tantrums personally?
- How do I explain to others (family or in-laws) that tantrums are not just misbehaviour?
- How do I manage my own emotions when my child’s tantrum triggers me?
- How do I stop myself from comparing my child’s behaviour to other kids?
- What can I do when I feel like I have run out of patience or ideas?
- How do I gently explain to others that we do not hit or punish harshly in our home?
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- How can I help my child recover from a tantrum in a way that builds trust?
- How do I help my child repair the emotional mess after a big outburst, without making them feel ashamed or bad?
- Should I explain to my child that even adults have big feelings sometimes?
- What can I say to my child after a tantrum to help them reflect on what happened?
- Can bedtime stories and routines reduce end-of-day meltdowns?
- How can I reward emotional growth rather than just good behaviour?
- How do I help my child learn from a tantrum without over-talking?
- How do I help my child repair a relationship after a tantrum has hurt someone?
- How do I track progress or patterns in my child’s tantrums?
- Is it better to talk about a tantrum right away or wait until later?
- Is it ever helpful to record tantrums to show my child later?
- What are the best books or tools to help children understand big feelings?
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- Are rewards helpful in preventing tantrums, or do they just lead to children demanding each time?
- How do I handle tantrums first thing in the morning before school or nursery?
- Can too much screen time make tantrums worse and what is the solution?
- How can I use routine and structure to reduce emotional outbursts?
- How do I deal with tantrums around bedtime or when it is time to stop screen time?
- How do I deal with tantrums in the car or when we are travelling?
- What should I do if my child uses tantrums to delay things they do not want to do, like bedtime or clean-up?
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- Can daily affirmations or calm rituals help children feel more secure?
- How can I create a calm-down corner or space for my child?
- How do I set boundaries during a tantrum without escalating the situation?
- Is it better to hold or leave my child during a tantrum?
- How can I reset the mood after a difficult tantrum?
- How do I stop my child from hitting or kicking during a tantrum?
- Should I ignore my child during a tantrum or try to talk to them?
- What kind of tone and body language helps when I’m de-escalating a tantrum?
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- Are tantrums always a sign of poor discipline or something deeper?
- Can hunger or tiredness cause tantrums, and how do I manage that?
- How do I manage tantrums from a child with speech delays?
- Is it normal for a five-year-old to still have daily tantrums?
- Is there a link between diet and mood swings in children?
- What are signs that tantrums are linked to sensory overload or other needs?
- What do tantrums in younger children look like compared to older ones?
- What is the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?
- Are boys more prone to tantrums than girls or is it just a myth?
- How do I know if my child’s tantrums need professional help?
- Why does my child seem to have tantrums only with me and not others?
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- Is quietness in a girl a concern or a norm?
- Should I separate their toys based on gender?
- Should I teach sons and daughters the same way?
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- What kind of learning works better for girls?
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- What simple games help brain growth?
- What visual aid methods should I use to help my child learn?
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- Are certain foods 'brain foods' for toddlers?
- Can poor sleep habits delay development?
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- How did Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ encourage children to learn?
- How much physical activity is needed for mental growth?
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- Is there Islamic evidence on the benefits of learning from a young age?
- What Duas can I read to improve my child’s understanding and memory?
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- What natural habits help a child wake up ready to learn?
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- What Islamic songs and Nasheeds build language skills?
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- Can a poor early learning experience be reversed later?
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- Is attention span something that can be trained?
- Should I start goal setting in the early years?
- What habits now help with future learning?
- What is one thing I can do daily to support brain growth?
- What skills now help with understanding the noble Quran?
- When should I teach time and routines?
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- Can sand, water, and mud play really build intelligence?
- Can too much screen time undo any good habits or ways of thinking that I am teaching?
- Do I need to read aloud even if my child cannot understand?
- Does running and climbing help the brain too?
- How can I tell if a toy is too advanced or too basic?
- How can I use car journeys and errands for brain-building
- How does playing with siblings enhance thinking skills?
- How important is it to talk to my baby regularly
- Is it better to lead the play or follow the child’s lead?
- What kinds of pretend play are helpful for brain growth?
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- Are puzzles useful for toddlers?
- Can memorisation of the noble Quran aid early brain development
- How can I make learning a form of worship?
- How can outdoor play boost memory and attention
- How do I link brain development to Tawheed and purpose?
- Is it okay to let a child learn Islamic and secular subjects together
- Is there a Sunnah way of storytelling for children?
- Should I introduce Islamic knowledge before ABCs and 123s
- What Islamic games can stimulate thinking?
- What toys are best for cognitive development?
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- Can too many corrections stop curiosity?
- How can fathers play an active role in early learning?
- How does my tone of voice affect my child’s learning?
- How many languages can a toddler learn without confusion?
- How often should I be 'teaching' during the day?
- If I am from a multilingual background, what language should I speak at home primarily?
- Should I speak Arabic at home if I am not fluent?
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- What benefit is there to my child if we speak more than one language at home?
- What if I am not a confident teacher myself?
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- Are fruit snacks and granola bars healthy?
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- How can I tell if my child is overeating?
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- How many calories does a child aged 4–8 years need?
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What can I say to my child after a tantrum to help them reflect on what happened?
PostedJuly 8, 2025
UpdatedJuly 8, 2025
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Parenting Perspective
Following a tantrum, children might experience feelings of confusion, being overwhelmed, or even a sense of shame. After they have settled down, it is a good opportunity to carefully go over what occurred. Use a calm and neutral tone that avoids assigning fault. You could express, ‘You seemed quite upset earlier.’ Can you recall the events that took place?’ or ‘What sensations did you experience in your body when you felt angry?’ These open-ended questions assist children in recognising and identifying their feelings. Encourage them thoughtfully to consider improved approaches: ‘In the future, when you experience that feeling, what alternatives might you explore?’ Use clear and uniform language. Try to keep the conversation engaging and not overly formal. The goal is not to impose penalties but to assist the child in gaining insights from the situation, fostering resilience and self-awareness as they grow. Reflection is a skill that requires time to cultivate, but your steady practice will aid in its growth.
Spiritual Insight
Islam encourages reflection and self-awareness as part of personal development from an early age. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Shams (91), Verses 7-10: ‘And by the soul and how it is designed (for infusion into the body).Thus, We have designed (the soul with discretion) for wickedness and piety without any doubt success is for the one who developed purity (of the self) and indeed, failure is for the one who embraces (the darkness of ignorance and immorality).’
Encouraging children to reflect after a tantrum is part of this process of purification and inner guidance. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1952, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: ‘There is no gift that a father gives his son more virtuous than good manners.’ This Hadith emphasises that parents are responsible for shaping their children’s character. Assisting a child in their reflection is essential to honouring that trust with compassion. By encouraging this habit from a young age, you are helping your child develop a sense of right and wrong and a caring nature, rather than just following rules.
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