What can I do when my toddler keeps interrupting their sibling’s screen-based homework? 

Parenting Perspective 

A toddler’s interruptions often stem from simple curiosity or a deep-seated need for attention, especially when an older sibling’s screen-based homework looks like a fascinating game. The key is to proactively manage the younger child’s needs without disrupting the older one’s focus, creating a peaceful environment for both. 

Prepare the Toddler with Simple Language 

Before the homework begins, take a moment to speak with your toddler. Explain in simple, clear terms what their sibling needs to do and why you need their help to create a quiet space. You could say, “Your brother has some important schoolwork to do on his computer now, so he needs some quiet time to concentrate. Can you help me with that?” This frames the situation around cooperation and understanding. 

Offer a ‘Parallel’ Special Activity 

One of the most effective strategies is to give your toddler their own engaging ‘homework’ to do alongside their sibling. This could be a special puzzle, a colouring book, or a set of building blocks that only comes out during this time. This gives them a sense of purposeful involvement without them intruding on the older child and makes the time feel special for them too. 

Keep Study Sessions Focused and Structured 

Where possible, encourage the older child to work in focused, time-bound sessions with short breaks in between. This approach is not only better for their concentration but also makes it much easier to manage the toddler’s attention span. Knowing that a break is coming soon can help the younger child wait more patiently. It respects the natural rhythm of both children. 

Plan for Connection Afterwards 

Reassure your toddler that they will have your full attention once the homework session is over. Knowing that their ‘turn’ for connection and play is coming can significantly reduce their need to interrupt in the present moment. This acknowledges their need for attention while teaching them the valuable skill of waiting patiently. 

With a little forward planning and consistency, you can protect the needs of both your children one for concentration, and the other for connection and engagement. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages fairness and wisdom in managing the complex needs of a family, recognising that each person’s stage of life comes with unique requirements. Balancing your attention between siblings is a practical and profound part of this responsibility. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anfaal (8), Verse 27: 

‘O you who are believers, do not ever be pretentious (in following the commandment) of Allah (Almighty) and His Prophet (Muhammad ﷺ); and do not misappropriate what has been entrusted upon you, whilst you know (the consequences of such actions).’ 

This verse reminds us to honour the responsibilities (amanah) that have been entrusted to us. This includes safeguarding each child’s right to an environment that supports their individual needs, whether for focused study or for meaningful engagement. 

It is recorded in Al Adab Al Mufrad, Hadith 112, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believer is not the one who eats his fill while his neighbour goes hungry.’ 

While this hadith speaks of a neighbour, its underlying principle is about being deeply mindful of the needs of those around us. Applying this within the home means we do not focus solely on one child’s need for quiet concentration while ignoring the other’s need for attention. By protecting the older child’s study space while providing the toddler with meaningful engagement, you are modelling fairness, respect, and empathy values that will serve them both for a lifetime.