What can I do if my child feels anxious in crowded places? 

Parenting Perspective 

Normalise Their Feelings 

Many children feel anxious in busy public spaces like shopping centres, markets, parks, or even family gatherings. The noise, crowds, and unfamiliar faces can feel overwhelming, causing them to cling to you, cry, or want to leave. Start by letting your child know that this feeling is normal and nothing to feel ashamed about. Use gentle words: ‘Sometimes our hearts feel tight when there are too many people. You can always tell me when you feel like this.’ 

Prepare and Practise 

Prepare your child before going to a busy place. Talk through what they might see, hear, and smell. Let them know what they can do if they feel overwhelmed, for example, squeezing your hand, taking deep breaths together, or stepping outside for a moment. You can practise a small plan: ‘If you feel anxious, you can hold my hand and tell me, “I need a break.”’ Some children feel comforted by carrying a favourite small toy or something familiar from home. Praise your child for any small moment they manage well, even if they still feel nervous inside. Over time, these simple habits help your child see that crowded places do not have to feel out of control; they have gentle tools and your steady support to help them cope. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us that Allah Almighty knows our hidden fears and that He never leaves us alone in moments of worry. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 173: 

‘…And they said: Allah Almighty (Alone) is sufficient for us, and He is excellent as the Ultimate Trustee (of all our affairs).‘

Sharing this with your child shows them that no matter how crowded a place feels, they are always under Allah Almighty’s protection. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3372, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Dua is worship.‘

Teach your child a short prayer they can whisper when they feel anxious: ‘Ya Allah, help my heart feel calm and safe.’ This small act connects their fear to their faith and gives them something gentle to focus on when the world around them feels too loud. By guiding them in this way, you show your child that they are never truly alone; Allah Almighty’s care surrounds them, and your loving presence reminds them they can find calmness even in the busiest of places.