What are the best phrases of Dhikr to calm my heart when I am struggling to stay patient? 

Parenting Perspective 

Dhikr as an Emotional Anchor 

Parenting patience often gets put to the test by the recurrence of minor, everyday annoyances, like as spilt milk, nighttime tantrums, and incessant questions when you are already exhausted. You need something to keep you grounded during these times. Dhikr, or remembering Allah Almighty, is a soothing rhythm for the heart and nervous system in addition to being a spiritual aid. It is a way of bringing breath, presence, and meaning into moments where you feel like losing control. 

Specific Phrases for Different Feelings 

Various Dhikr phrases provide various forms of emotional comfort. Repeating ‘Ya Saboor’ (O Most Patient) silently will help you calm down your inner pace when you are rushed or impatient. Say ‘Astaghfirullah’ (I seek forgiveness from Allah) quietly when you feel regret after acting out of anger or raising your voice. This will help you refocus your intention and ask for divine forgiveness. Whispering ‘Hasbiyallahu wa ni’mal wakeel’ (Allah Almighty is sufficient for me and He is the finest disposer of matters) might help you feel incredibly confident and devoted when you are feeling overwhelmed. Instead of solving the problem, these words change how you feel about it. 

Integrating Dhikr into Daily Life 

When incorporated into your daily routine rather than saved for emergencies, dhikr is most effective. You can use it for rocking your child to sleep, folding clothing, or waiting in traffic. Your children will eventually notice and pick up on this practice as well, not because you explicitly taught them, but because you set an example for them by modelling it in your own behaviour. That is how you plant spiritual calm into the fabric of family life. 

Spiritual Insight 

Dhikr is not just for the pious or scholarly; it is the medicine of the everyday believer. Allah Almighty declares in Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verse 28: 

“Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that (one can (and does) peace of mind and heart.” 

This is not a symbolic rest. It is a promise of inner peace from God. It serves as a reminder that remembering the One in charge of everything brings us calm, rather than trying to control everything. The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ often resorted to Dhikr, particularly during stressful or trying times. As recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3383, he stated: 

“The best remembrance is: ‘there is none worthy of worship except Allah Almighty (Lā ilāha illallāh)’ and the best supplication is: ‘All praise is due to Allah Almighty (Al-ḥamdulillāh).” 

Laa ilaaha illallah centres you on truth when emotion clouds perspective. Alhamdulillah helps you reach for gratitude even in the thick of difficulty. When you find it difficult to control your emotions, welcome Dhikr into the situation. Allow your mouth to reiterate what your spirit needs to know: that Allah Almighty watches you, encourages you, and supports your efforts, even when you stumble. Constant control is not necessary for parenting. Conscious return is necessary. And we return with humility, breath, and hope through dhikr.