What are some signs that media is affecting my child’s behaviour or spirituality? 

Parenting Perspective 

The influence of media on a child’s behaviour and emotional state can be subtle at first, but the signs are often there if we know what to look for. Noticing these shifts early allows for gentle course correction before habits become deeply ingrained. 

Changes in Mood and Behaviour 

One of the most common signs is a noticeable increase in irritability, impatience, or sudden mood swings, particularly when it is time to transition away from a screen. If you find your child becoming more argumentative, withdrawn, or if they begin to mimic aggressive language or behaviour from what they have watched, it is a strong indicator that the content is shaping their conduct. 

Shifts in Spiritual Priorities 

On a deeper level, it is important to watch for shifts in their values and priorities. If Islamic practices that were once accepted, such as Salah, Quran reading, or helping at home, suddenly start to feel ‘boring’ or are frequently rushed in favour of screen time, this may be a sign that their spiritual connection is being affected. Similarly, if they begin to adopt attitudes that normalise disrespect, dishonesty, or immodesty, even in their imaginative play, these may be direct reflections of the content they are consuming. 

Physical and Cognitive Signs 

Other key indicators can include disrupted sleep patterns, a noticeably reduced attention span for non-screen activities, and a general disinterest in hobbies or games they once loved. The aim is not to panic over every small change, but to remain attentive. Being open to discussion allows you to address any concerning patterns early and with gentle care. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us that what we see, hear, and engage with has a direct and profound influence on the state of our heart. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Noor (24), Verse 30: 

‘Say (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) to the believing men to lower their gaze (upon forbidden things); and protect their private parts (with chastity); these actions shall help them (attain) piety…’ 

This verse reminds us that protecting our senses from harmful exposure is a direct command from Allah and a means by which we can preserve our inner purity and strengthen our connection to Him. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 4173, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Modesty (Haya) is from faith, and faith is in Paradise. And obscenity is from hardness of the heart, and hardness of the heart is in the Fire.’ 

This hadith teaches us that what our children absorb through media can either nurture their innate modesty (haya), which is a branch of faith, or diminish it, which can lead to a hardening of the heart. By staying alert to the early signs of negative influence and guiding your child with both empathy and clear values, you can help ensure that their media habits become a means of growth rather than a pathway to harm.